Three years ago my 7 year relationship with my ex failed because our sex life had just died and by the end we hadn?t done it for 2 years. Although we got on very well and were affectionate, that side of things just didn?t exist. I was determined not to let that ever happen again. I?ve been with current DP for 18 months. At first the sex was great and frequent (as it always is at the start) but now we do it on average about once a week and even then it doesn?t feel very spontaneous. There are no kids, we?re both in our twenties (ok, I?m 29 so only just!) and I can?t help but worry that I am heading down the same path again.
I really want to work hard to make sure that our sex life is maintained as we enter the realms of the long term relationship. I don?t have heaps of confidence in the sack, having suffered from vaginismus for years and not losing my virginity until 23 as a result, but I do my best and mostly enjoy it.
I feel like when we do have sex we follow the same routine and I want to get out of that and enjoy good sex for a long time. Does anyone have any tips? How do you keep things fresh when you?ve done the same things to death? I don?t want to try new things I know I want enjoy just for the sake of it (whipping and bummng - totally not my thing) but I do want to keep it all alive. Has anyone managed this?
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Keeping the spark alive in the sack
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chrome100 · 10/07/2013 11:28
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