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Spotted old friend's wife as on dating site- WWYD?

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HoorayHarriet · 08/07/2013 11:34

I am prepared for the 'nothing!' response and that's my gut instinct but can't help wondering anyway what is going on.
I've seen on FB that the wife of someone I know is signed up, or has at least 'liked' a dating site called sugar daddies. He isn't on FB, is in his 70s and not really IT savvy.
She married my friend who could to be seen as a sugar daddy, relative to the life she had when she met him.

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 08/07/2013 11:40

Liking isn't the same as signing up, really. I'd stay out of it.

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BeCool · 08/07/2013 11:40

Wonder away if you must but really it's none of your business whatsoever is it? I think you are best to listen to your gut instinct here.

What would you hope to achieve by not following your instinct?

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VanitasVanitatum · 08/07/2013 11:41

She may have liked it on fb as a joke? Maybe some of her friends tease her that she has a sugar daddy?! Obviously you're right in your gut instinct, I would advise doing nothing at all.

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Viking1 · 08/07/2013 11:59

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HoorayHarriet · 08/07/2013 12:06

Yes, I agree. I know I should and will do nothing! But I am still shocked as their relationship fits the bill as a sugar daddy. Having checked, she is shown as belonging to the group. My heart just sank because people who knew this guy well, felt he was being taken advantage of by this person when they married. But you are all right and have confirmed my instinct.

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SolidGoldBrass · 08/07/2013 12:14

Definitely stay out of it. No one will thank you for interfering.
By the sound of it, given that you and all your busybody mates think the woman is a gold-digging bitch, she might well have signed up to the site as a big 'fuck you' to her critics and she and her H might be howling with laughter as they imagine you all pooing with rage and panicking about what to do.

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MsWinnieBaygo · 08/07/2013 12:16

There are many ads or suggested pages that pop up on people's Facebook walls that people can comment on (and therefore you, as their FB friend can see their comment)

Commenting on a dating site or liking it, isn't the same thing as joining one and actively seeking to cheat at all.

Bit of an over reaction on your part based on the information you've told us IMO.

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Skintorama · 08/07/2013 12:19

God, what a nasty, horrible, judgemental snob you'd have to be to think of someone in these terms.

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HoorayHarriet · 08/07/2013 12:27

Okay okay- calm down the lot of you! I have said I won't do anything. She is a group member, it appears. But I am not going to say anything. End of and thank you all.

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Chloe1989 · 08/07/2013 13:30

Even if she does see him as a ''sugar daddy'', so what? There are benefits to both parties in those relationships, and if he's willing to look after her financially, it's obviously working for him. I'd hazard a guess that the Facebook page 'liking' was just a joke though.

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NoisesOff · 08/07/2013 20:06

I'd be very cautious. Someone told me - perhaps wrongly - that Facebook claims people 'like' pages when they've done nothing of the sort.

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