I've been married twice and am now single for 4.5 years. I've had flings and a very short relationship and since the last fling 10 months ago I decided that I wouldn't get involved with anyone until I was 1) content with me and my life just as it was and 2) much more aware and in tune with what I want/need from any involvement.
I am slowly coming to the conclusion that I don't want the type of relationship I've had before, ie exclusivity, monogamy and having to abide by certain "rules". I feel that type of arrangement would be stifling.
I would love to meet someone and fall in love, but I do not want to be "owned" by someone and be expected to behave in a certain way (of course love, respect and treating each other with compassion are a must!) I definitely don't think I ever want to live with someone again.
On the other hand, I don't think the swinging lifestyle is for me either. So is there a middle ground between monogamy and swapping car keys with your neighbours? How would I find like minded people? Where to start?
Oh, and I don't think it's just about sex, it's also about being able to completely be myself without having to compromise myself...does that make any sense?
Anyone else identify with this at all?
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Where to start? Single and don't think traditional monogamy is for me...
msshapelybottom · 07/07/2013 17:05
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