Hi there,
Could anyone else give me some advice on the following problem and tell me if I'm just being an immature drama queen.
Basically, DP and I have talked about marriage a few times over the past 3 years. It hasn't been a proposal, just talking about how we'd like to do it. Each time, he says he would like to marry me, then nothing. No ring, no proper proposal.
I'm not bothered about the shiny ring, the big day or dress. I'm upset about the fact that my feelings don't seem to be reciprocated. I feel it's the biggest commitment you can make to someone and I'm ready to take that step. Last time we talked about getting married was about 3 months ago? Gues what...No ring and he hasn't brought it up since.
We have been together for 6 years and living together for nearly 5 years of that. I think I know him well enough to suspect that if he meant what he said, he would actually be more proactive about it. I think that to keep telling someone you want to marry them and then not making any effort to follow through is really unkind.
I just think he's not that into me. I noticed ages ago that he had stopped complimenting me. So, I started complimenting him, doiong more for him, making a real effort with my appearance and I got 3 compliments in all that time. So, I felt pretty rejected by that too.
Then there's the bedroom problem. Sex is a damp squib. We have a quickie once of twice a week. He says that he just can't go like he used to be able to, because he's 40. He's a very fit and healthy 40 yr old though. I suspect that the novelty of someone new would soon get his pecker up.
So, all in all I just feel rejected and don't know what to do. I have arranged to visit my BFF and stay over tonight. Should I talk to him before I go, so he has time to think about what I have said and we can talk when I get back? I'm sitting here in tears at the moment and so confused as I don't know if I'm just being a massive twat over this.
If you made it this far you deserve and .
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bettycocker · 06/07/2013 06:38
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