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Relationships

I can't seem to move on.

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ineedtobreath · 06/07/2013 02:11

i did start a thread when it happend but its disdapeared. Anyway found out dp haf been cheating on me for over ten months i gave him back his things but right niw i feel as though my heart is going to explode i loved him so much and gave him everything i could and cannot stop thinking that he is the ow how do i get through thid no proper rl support and with 2 dcs i just can't cope

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Rulesgirl · 06/07/2013 02:14

Poor you. How long since you split up?

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ImNotBloody14 · 06/07/2013 02:16

Ate you still with him?

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ineedtobreath · 06/07/2013 02:17

We took a break in feb but we were trying to work things out and by we i mean me. I only found out three weeks ago.

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ineedtobreath · 06/07/2013 02:18

No but like a fool i miss him

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ineedtobreath · 06/07/2013 02:20

I don't why as hes being so cold and nasty to me.

I can't stop crying.

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ImNotBloody14 · 06/07/2013 02:25

You are not a fool. It is normal yo miss partner, i am 3 years om and thehre are still things i miss, bit the bad stuff waaaay outweighs the tstuff i miss. He chetead. U are entitled yo a faithful pattner. Uou arr entitled to tje relationship you want. Accept nothing less than what you want, no one else will make it happen but you.

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ImNotBloody14 · 06/07/2013 02:27

Its ok to cry, it is a grief. A natiral process when relationshop ends.

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ineedtobreath · 06/07/2013 02:31

Thank you. How do i stop myself looking like i'm desperete i just want to speak to him and to have his arms around me i put in so much more than i have ever done and i just get my head around it i want him to feel as i do but i know i can't force someones feelings.

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ImNotBloody14 · 06/07/2013 02:37

You want the physicaal him? I undrstandbthis, i feel tje same from time to tome. But it is a physical want. Emotionally, he damages you. You know this. You owe uourself more than what he gives you. I know how hard the early days are btw. I cried for weeks. Xx

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Rulesgirl · 06/07/2013 04:06

Do you want him back op?

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 06/07/2013 07:03

You stop looking like you're desperate by doing your level best to stay away from this person. When you've been shat on from a great height you have to take it as read that the person has absolutely no feelings for you any more. They're not going to talk to you nicely or put their arms around you. To get your self-respect back, even though it's painful, you have to work with the reality rather than tormenting yourself by clinging to a fantasy. Easier said than done, I grant you when your world has been turned upside down. But much easier if you keep your distance, stay busy and be with friends and family that actually like you..... not some shit of a man that doesn't

It's only been three weeks which is practically yesterday. Be kind to yourself and good luck

Best of luck

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ineedtobreath · 06/07/2013 20:50

Its very hard staying away from him as hes dcs dad so see him. I'm not sure if i want to be with him or not its a crazy feeling and as one poster said i miss the physicial side of being with him.