I am a regular but have NC'd for this thread, my first in relationships.
So, things are not all rosy in the Nights household. Married 8 years, one DC aged 5, general low level narkiness with each other occasionally blowing up into big row. We love each other but can't break out of the cycle of competitive tiredness, one-upmanship etc. I have recently uttered, with deadly seriousness "I can't live like this." So things have to improve!
Borrowing an idea from a friend of a friend, I have proposed something new. Each night after dinner and DC is in bed, we work together on a particular theme of family life. E.g. Monday - family finances and admin; Tuesday - housework/DIY; Wednesday - shopping lists etc.
One night is set aside for fun when we don't do any jobs but do something together, even if it is slumping in front of a film on TV.
DH has been dismissive, sarky, reluctant, protesting but with some cajoling from me, we made a start tonight. It was a moderate success, we got some stuff done and we had a civil conversation
I thought I would start a thread to record progress / success / failure. And to see if anyone has done something similar?
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Experiment to improve communication in marriage
ThemeNights · 01/07/2013 22:32
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