Hi, i'm hoping to get some other perspectives on our situation as I feel I may be being blinkered.
I've been with DP for around 18 months now and we are looking to move in together soon. Our relationship is good, we've had our ups and downs but we are really happy at the moment apart from one problem. His Ex wife. She will not let us have the children together.
He sees them at least 3 times a week at their house, so spends plenty of time with them which is great but I can't see our future with this arrangement. My ex has our children two nights a week over at his house, his girlfriend is sometimes there, sometimes not but I put no restrictions on his access at all and we are very flexible as well as amicable.
I don't want to be sat at home two nights a week and every sunday while he's having bbq's with his kids and his ex wife. He seems resigned to the situation and is reluctant to rock the boat with his ex who has threatened to move away if he tries to gain proper access.
I am completely happy to have his children at our house, stay over, make them as comfortable and welcome as possible. I don't want to be their Mother - they have one and I have my own children.
I'm not jealous of her, I do feel that he panders to her too much but I have no concerns that he wants her back, she does want him back unfortunately and I think this is where the problem lies, she likes him being there doing little jobs around the house and bringing groceries etc.
I don't know if I can do this, I feel like his mistress, we talk of marriage and the future but I just can't see me being happy with his 2 separate lives.
Any advice?
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Not sure I can live separate lives with DP - any advice?
canidothiswouldyou · 28/06/2013 19:55
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