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What does your dp or dh do that irritates you?

(150 Posts)
bordellosboheme Thu 27-Jun-13 11:49:01

Yesterday.... Mine....
angry
Ate a bar of choc that was a present for a neighbour (that I hid in the freezer)
Ate most of my nice olives before I had a chance to have one
Decided to dip ds in the sea in a pair of doodles I had bought the day before (still got soaking wet shoes).
Made a load of mess in the kitchen which I've had to clear up this am on my day off.
Ate the remainder of the bread
I could go on..........

Am I alone?

themonsteratemyspacebar Thu 27-Jun-13 12:02:42

Mine plays with his belly button all of the time. Its really irritating!
Even started saying it will drop off......then realised it makes no sense blush
Yesterday i said it will change to an outie, then what will you do?! He just looked at me like this hmm

BookieMonster Thu 27-Jun-13 12:04:29

Completely fills the dishwasher in the evening but doesn't turn it on leaving me very behind the next morning. It really winds me up.

meditrina Thu 27-Jun-13 12:08:25

Breathes!

And snores. But he's lost a lot of weight recently, and it's become a lot easier to sleep through both.

bordellosboheme Thu 27-Jun-13 12:11:08

Bookie, filling the dishwasher seems pretty impressive to me. Dp has probably done that once since we bought it!

Waves at me randomly, e.g. when he sits down for dinner. confused I know this is really trivial blush, but it just winds me up! That is so not when you wave at people, you wave across the street when you've seen someone you know, or you wave goodbye to your relatives when they're driving away. You don't wave at your wife, who you've already seen and talked to that evening, as you're sitting down at the dinner table.

I've told him this is weird and annoying, but he doesn't see my problem.

DiscoDonkey Thu 27-Jun-13 12:19:14

Notgood that really made me laugh (and I'm in costs alone!) I have an image of Forrest Gump sitting down at the table and doing a little rigid, socially awkward wave.

DiscoDonkey Thu 27-Jun-13 12:19:37

Costa not costs

SonOfAradia Thu 27-Jun-13 12:21:19

Never, ever puts things away in the kitchen after making a snack or doing any cooking.

Doesn't have a clue how to load the dishwasher or turn it on.

As above, but substitute washing machine for dishwasher.

Worst of all: spends hours and hours and hours on online forums (not this one) and snaps at DS (6) when he wants some attention.

Always leaves it to me to bath DS and put him to bed.

There's more, but that's enough to be going on with.

I do love her, but she can be a bit of a trial sometimes!

CatInWellies Thu 27-Jun-13 12:23:41

Goes into ridiculous amounts of detail about the most pointless things, but misses out details of important things!
For example, a conversation from the other day:
Him: "I'll have a look in The Range for my car bulb, since we're going there anyway"
Me "Oh, I didn't know there was a car parts bit there"
Him "Yeah just as you go in, on the left hand side, walk about eight steps down, just past the curtains and stuff, it takes up half an aisle and they do T-Cut and air fresheners and.."
We were already going there! Together! Plus, I don't buy car stuff so I'm never going to need to know the precise location of the car parts department.

And then I'll be talking to someone else, I'll relay the conversation to DP and he'll say "oh yeah, I meant to tell you that last week..sorry.." Argh!

It's rubbing off on my son too, the other day we were talking and he went off on a tangent about where exactly he was at the time he'd had a similar conversation with his dad. I felt like screaming "just get to the bloody point!"

RobotBananas Thu 27-Jun-13 12:26:42

Waves his legs around when lying on the sofa. Drives me fucking batshit.
Shouts at DD through gritted teeth. Argh.
Never wants to eat anything other than chicken for dinner.
Whistles.
Moans about being tired, but always insists on sleeping on the sofa confused

Ugh.. too many more to mention.

SnookyPooky Thu 27-Jun-13 12:30:28

Puts shite on the TV then falls asleep after 10 mins.
Goes to buy cat food but doesn't think to get bread and milk.
Eats us out if house and home when he is off work and bored.
Can't do anything quietly, when HE is having 40 winks I tiptoe around, can I expect the same? No.

Bluecarrot Thu 27-Jun-13 12:31:27

Mainly what he doesn't do that winds me up!

Not putting stuff away, doesn't clean up all hair after shaving, is not domesticated etc and plays the"I'm new to this" card.

And he buys me MASSIVE bars of chocolate. Then I eat all the chocolate. I would have been happy ( and lighter) with the tiny bar. ( ok, that one was lighthearted!)

Lottapianos Thu 27-Jun-13 12:36:21

I love these threads grin

Farts for Britain and is proud of it hmm
Sit on couch with hands down his pants
Tells me far too much any detail about the frequency and quality of his poos <vomit>
Will do the washing up but never ever ever puts pots and pans away, just leaves them on top of the hob
Talks to me at length about stuff that I could not give a tiny rat's arse about, like trains and railway lines and the entire life history of Wilko Johnson
Asks me what I would like for dinner and then whines and complains that whatever I suggest sounds like too much hard word <rage>

He's lovely really grin There are loads more too.

ShatnersBassoon Thu 27-Jun-13 12:37:50

Can't give a straight answer or make a snap decision. Everything has to be mulled over and put out to tender. Drives me bloody mad.

LulaPalooza Thu 27-Jun-13 12:48:12

Is incapable of turning a light off
Channel hops constantly when watching TV. For example, we will be watching a film (usually one that I don't want to watch anyway) then the ad breaks come on so he switches to something else, watches that for half an hour then goes back to the film.
Takes washing out of the tumble dryer and leaves it in a heap on a chair in the kitchen
Has a memory like a seive

bordellosboheme Thu 27-Jun-13 12:49:02

These are making me feel better, even if some are a little tame wink

Wineandchoccy Thu 27-Jun-13 12:57:00

Doesn't use a chopping board when making a sandwich so when I come home there's tomato seeds and grated cheese stuck to the work top.

Washes up but doesn't think to put anything away so it's like a game of Jenga but with dishes and glasses balanced to the ceiling!

UnknownGnome Thu 27-Jun-13 13:10:59

Loses things by not putting them back where they should go. Things have a place for a reason. We work shifts so some weeks he'll do the school run and afterschool clubs. When it comes to my week I can't find a farking thing. Kids' sunhats, swimming costumes, football kit, homework. It's like he just throws things and leaves them where they land.

Similarly, when I'm at work he'll phone me to ask me mundane things - "what shall I put in the kids' sandwiches?", "do you think they need their coats?" hmm Make a decision; you're a parent too!

He always steps on the squeaky floorboards. They're easy to avoid!

He tries to drink his tea literally as soon as it's been poured resulting in lots of small slurps angry That one bothers me a lot!

Juneywoony Thu 27-Jun-13 13:13:18

Chews the skin around his nails really loudly when we are watching TV yuk!
When he makes his sandwiches(I mainly do this because) he just leaves all the crumbs and mess on the worktop grrrrrrrr! Same with toast, just get a cloth and wipe it up takes seconds! Oh and with poached eggs just leaves the pan on the hob, I've left it a couple of times to see how long before he would tidy it and it's still there the next day double grrrrr!

The worst by far is at night, he snores, chews his tongue and makes this weird noise where I think he is trying to itch the roof of his mouth which has been a lot worse recently as his hay fever has been bad, it gets me so angry even though I know he cant help it, I literally lay there seething and giving him the odd push then pretend to be asleep when he wakes up haha!

Other than that he's really lovely grin

Lottapianos Thu 27-Jun-13 13:18:20

'He tries to drink his tea literally as soon as it's been poured resulting in lots of small slurps '

My DP slurps his coffee and chomps his food, and gulps down water like a baby calf <loads shotgun> It's so bloody inconsiderate and ignorant!

myflabberisgasted Thu 27-Jun-13 13:25:16

NotGoodNotBad that really made me laugh! I am sat here crying with laughter that s so random! grin

Shodan Thu 27-Jun-13 13:48:02

The current annoyance is that he'll ask me, every time, if he needs a jacket when we go out.

1) I am not his mother
2) His body temperature is higher than mine (think shorts in winter)
3) He's 39, ffs.
4)I am still not his mother.

Then he gets miffed when I get grrr about it.

WakeyCakey Thu 27-Jun-13 14:18:14

DP will eat his tea then put his belly button fluff on the plate [boak]

Snores like a rhino then complains that HE slept badly!

Makes the sound of mr tickle while tickling me. Drives me absolutely insane!!!

Is a competitive sick person...if you are I'll he is worse. We recently got a kitten and he complained when we took her to the vets that he thought he had worms! And when I was in hospital for a burst cyst told the surgeon that he had a very sore shoulder!!!

NorbertDentressangle Thu 27-Jun-13 14:25:05

Snores all sodding night and then moans about how he's not slept a wink all night hmm.

No, DP...I'm the one who's not slept and that's because of your snoring!!!

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