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LoserNoMore · 21/05/2013 08:38

Just thought I'd start a new thread, general chit chat, moaning, skipping etc before I go to work and incase the other one fills up.

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skyeskyeskye · 21/05/2013 08:45

Just marking spot. Have a good day.

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lazarusb · 21/05/2013 10:36

I did a bit of skipping yesterday but my back is uncomfortable today so I'm avoiding it until I'm ok again...really can't go back to constant pain.

Hope everyone has a good day. It's my Mum's birthday so I'm taking her out for lunch Smile Would be nice to see a bit of sun though!

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JaxTellerIsAllMine · 21/05/2013 11:43

no skipping for me, although I am with you in spirit. I have walked the dog, views were beautiful. Walked through the woods - all the bluebells are out, onto the hills and it never fails to make me feel good. Didnt see another soul. Grin

Hope work is ok for you today LNM.

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LoserNoMore · 21/05/2013 12:52

Sounds good Jax. Enjoy your lunch Lazarus! I'm home for lunch at a decent time for once, not usually before 2.00. When I say lunch I mean a coffee and 2 fags. Still quieter than normal at work, it's weird, I've even had time to pee.

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LoserNoMore · 21/05/2013 12:54

Thanks Skye, you too.

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JaxTellerIsAllMine · 21/05/2013 13:23

lunch and a pee! WOW, you are one lucky lady. Grin

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ladyjadie · 21/05/2013 14:56

Marking my place for inspiration, and a general faith-in-humanity restorer (you ladies here obv. not High Mage Twunt)

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JaxTellerIsAllMine · 21/05/2013 16:27

what sort of inspiration would you like ladyjadie? I am making no idea what for my dinner, DH and DC are having some form of pasta dish.

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imtheonlyone · 21/05/2013 16:30

Hello new thread :). I'm liking the title LNM - rather jealous of your lunch break - I didn't get chance to pee or eat or drink!!!!!!!!! But hey ho!!

Is he still hassling you or given up yet?

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swallowedAfly · 21/05/2013 16:30

glad you started another thread.

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Fairenuff · 21/05/2013 16:39

Jax your walk sounds so peaceful and relaxing - that's my kind of exercise. I'm off next week so if we get some decent weather I'll do lots of walking. It's a lovely time of year for it.

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LoserNoMore · 21/05/2013 16:49

I have managed to get away early too! Some problem with the server. I'm truly spoiled, lunch break, pee and home early.

Imtheonlyone, he's still texting. "Why are you ignoring me?" Erm, I think cos you're a twat just about covers it.

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JaxTellerIsAllMine · 21/05/2013 16:52

You can reply back telling him that. Eject that he is

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imtheonlyone · 21/05/2013 16:58

My response would be 'why are you still texting me? I've asked you not to unless it involves contact arrangements for the girls. All other texts will be ignored. Always'

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PyroclasticFlo · 21/05/2013 17:04

Found the new thread, glad you had a reasonable day at work LNM, and a pee and home early! What a treat Grin

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Fairenuff · 21/05/2013 17:28

I think he can figure out why you are ignoring him. Don't respond. Contact him through email if you have to. If you keep ignoring the texts he will eventually stop sending them.

Have you considered changing your phone, or even just your number? If he has to have a mobile contact for you, you could get a cheap payg phone and use that one just to make arrangements for the children.

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swallowedAfly · 21/05/2013 17:29

i'd send one response along the lines of, 'i have repeated asked you not to keep contacting me except in regard to contact by email. this is harassment. if you continue i will make a complaint with the police without further warning'.

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LoserNoMore · 21/05/2013 17:43

He said if I keep ignoring him he'll just come by the house and there's nothing the police will do because he won't be doing anything wrong, just trying to talk.

Ffs, 1 less stressful day at work and he sky rockets my stress levels through the roof. Just trying to get on with things and establish some sort of new routine and he's hanging about on the sidelines. Solicitors letter it is.

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PyroclasticFlo · 21/05/2013 17:52

I think a solicitors letter is a very good idea my lovely. Tell him what the new rules are in no uncertain terms.

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Dahlen · 21/05/2013 17:52

He's wrong. If you can show that you've asked him not to contact you, repeated texting/calling/turning up does count as harassment, regardless of his claim that he just wants to talk.

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CabbageLeaves · 21/05/2013 18:20

Arsehole.

Bullying arsehole.

I must admit my response would be along the lines of If you want to play like that... and then gloves off and divorce full steam

I'm on hols next week and am winding down :)

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LulaPalooza · 21/05/2013 18:31

Hello LNM, been catching up on your threads and I am so damn impressed with your courage and style and the way you are handling this. You are no-nonsense, you couldn't have been clearer with LH (Loser Husband) about what you think and feel and he can't cope with that at all, can he?

Anyhoo, I just wanted to say I think you are amazing x

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swallowedAfly · 21/05/2013 18:50

say you have forced yourself into this house and grabbed me previously and now you are harassing me with unwanted communication and threats of coming round here and the police not being able to do anything about it. you may want to read up on the law. any more and i will contact the police and report everything so far to them including your forced entry and assault and ask advice as to what can be done.

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thistlelicker · 21/05/2013 18:54

Can't believe ur on another new thread again :-))

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LoserNoMore · 21/05/2013 19:04

I am beyond livid. Just went to pick up dd from gymnastics and he was in the car park. He came over whilst I was still sitting in the car and sat in the passenger seat. I got out the car and he followed me begging for me to listen. I just kept walking and he was gone by the time I came out.

Then if that wasn't bad enough, dd has just told me he told her at the weekend that he'd be back home soon, I was just angry because he done something silly but I'd let him back eventually! I could kill him.

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