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whats going off?

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TheMrs04 · 17/05/2013 00:17

since i got married 2 months ago my husband has not been the same as before we got married. our sex life has gone down the toilet along with the romance. we've been together since i was 18 and he was 26 (now23 and 31) but its seems that im always the one who has to instigate it all and has to be the "leader" and to be honest its starting to get a bit of a headache. we've sat and spoken about it and he says he'll try to go back to the ways before but i cant see this happening. does anyone have any words of wisdom on this matter? or am i just loosing my head (most probably hormonal).

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 17/05/2013 06:25

It could just be a coincidence, of course. Has anything changed in the last couple of months that could leave him stressed, tired or distracted? Job problems? Money worries? Extra responsibilities? Health issues? Or it could be that he feels, now there's a ring on his finger, he doesn't have to try any more and he's taking things for granted. Does 'hormonal' mean you're pregnant?

It's good that you've talked but you need some kind of action plan or nothing will change. Do you set aside time to be together as a couple or are you always doing other things? Are you affectionate with each other more generally, do you enjoy each other's company, share jokes, touch etc?

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TheMrs04 · 17/05/2013 14:45

no problems at all. not pregnant as far as I know yet. (2+ years of trying) we set aside 2 nights a week where we sit have dinner together and talk.

hes spoken to me today and hes sorry for being so distant. which is a big thing for him as hes not a b ig talker on his emotions.
hopefully things will get better.
lets just hope that the ring I putbon his finger isn't the reason for this.
thank you