Quick history - partner has been 'ill' for over a year, first contracted shingles during a time of intense stress and then after fighting that off has been plagued with various ailments such as sore muscles, itchy skin, eye deterioration and pins and needles/numbness in his hands. He's ultra paranoid and for a while convinced himself that he had cancer. He's had every test going from full blood counts, immunity tests, liver function tests, lumbar puncture, mri ... nobody can find anything wrong with him. But he pushed and pushed and eventually ended up with an appointment for infectious diseases.
I went with him - was supposed to be going into the consultation with him but we were late and I offered to park the car and let him run off ahead for the appointment which he did. When he came out, he had blood sample pockets for hep b, hep c and hiv as well as pockets for other types of blood tests. I asked why he had the STI tests and he said he'd been asked shit loads of questions such as do you have sex with men, do you take needle drugs etc etc and then at the end the nurse said that although he doesn't have any of the triggers for sti's, she wanted to test him for it just to rule it out.
Now I'm shitting myself because we don't use condoms (he's had snip). We've been together for about a year, before me he claims he had sex with one other woman (with condoms) twice and before that he was married for the previous 17 years. He claimed he wasn't worried about it coming back positive as he knows there is no chance he could have it yet yesterday he came back saying he was stressing out over the tests because "what if it DOES come back positive?"
Would they actually do these types of tests on someone that didn't 'trigger' during the questions?? should I be concerned?? if his sexual history he's telling me is true then surely we have no reason to be concerned?
He even tried to blame it on me last night asking what my previous partner was like despite the fact that he was having symptoms before we even met.
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Partner has just had blood tests for HIV and Hep
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aTKINSsICK · 16/05/2013 13:35
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