So, I've been with dh for 2 years, we have dd (7mo) together, I'm 17 wks pg and I have a dd from a previous relationship.
Me and h got married in December last year, I didn't want to tbh, I wasn't happy with our situation, wanted things to change but he went and told everyone in my family, my best friend and pretty much rail roaded me into it. I had just 5 weeks to put together the wedding, all the while him complaining I wasn't telling him everything and telling me my ideas are stupid, my choice of colours was ridiculous etc.
Fast forward to now, I'm trying to find work but as I'm pg, no one will hire me, h is refusing to even look, last month I gave him 2 months to get an interview, not a job offer, just an interview. (he has a security license, there jobs are going unfilled atm by us and companies are crying out for staff) he hasn't even fucking looked. This is despite being on the computer for the whole day, playing his stupid games.
As we are on jsa , we get 224 a fortnight, with loans to pay off its reduced to 194, out of that he gets 25 quid to do with what he likes, by the time bills, food, heating, council tax.are paid, I'm left with nothing.
We also get tax credits and cb, these go on the bills, extra gas and money for living on.
I'm sick to death of the sight of him, he does Fuck all around.the house, I've really hurt my foot and if I.do too much I can barely walk on it. Since Tuesday he has agreed to pick up dd1 from school for me, fine, he has done it fur a whole 2 days and refused today. This meant that despite having to go into town to do the shopping (i would have done it online but I'm not "allowed" as one supermarket once sent him a bag of cat food instead of cereal) I had to walk the twenty mins and back again to get dd. He knew I was.already in pain as I had already taken pain killers and had asked him if we had any codine left.
He has developed a rather worrying trait in the last 6 months too, he has invented a dead twin, apparently his mum was abused by his dad (a claim his mum has denied), told me about his time living in a flat share with a gay guy (i know he's never lived there as he described the area all wrong and dds dad lives there, so I know the area) he's trying his dam best to gas light me over really stupid stuff like making a coffee
In an ideal world I'd pack up and leave but the house is in my name, he will refuse to leave and he's threatened that if he does have to leave he will take dd2. He is quite capable of this and tbh, I've only stayed this long because of his threats.
How the hell can I get out of this?
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right, i dint know if i want to ltb or not... i think i probably do.
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mouseymummy · 09/05/2013 19:45
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