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My ex is down stairs refusing to leave what can i do

(78 Posts)
SummersComing1111 Fri 03-May-13 21:47:12

My ex came round for a chat about DS access we have been getting on well, long story short got into a row he lost him temper now he is refusing to leave! Im upstairs with DS to get away , how can i get him out ???

JumpingJackSprat Fri 03-May-13 21:47:45

Call the police?

ChocHobNob Fri 03-May-13 21:48:19

Do you have a mobile on you? Phone the police.

WhereMyMilk Fri 03-May-13 21:48:31

Police now

Hareseeker Fri 03-May-13 21:48:35

Do you feel threatened?

tourdefrance Fri 03-May-13 21:48:38

call 999

SummersComing1111 Fri 03-May-13 21:49:05

I thought that but what can i say i invited my ex ran we got in a row now he wont go they will laugh at me

SummersComing1111 Fri 03-May-13 21:49:34

No aslong a i dont row with him

Hareseeker Fri 03-May-13 21:49:47

No they won't, a child is involved

MisForMumNotMaid Fri 03-May-13 21:50:06

They wont laugh. He has overstepped the boundaries. They are skilled at this

FannyFifer Fri 03-May-13 21:51:14

They will remove him, police now.

MisForMumNotMaid Fri 03-May-13 21:51:27

They would rather be called and not needed than the situation escalates.

No one has the right to make you feel threatened In Your home.

Can you call anyone else, a friend, neighbour, family mamber?

Hareseeker Fri 03-May-13 21:52:40

Mis is right, get some RL help

Lweji Fri 03-May-13 21:52:58

Police.
He overstepped his boundaries.
If you allowed a builder home and then he refused to leave you'd call the police too.

WeAreEternal Fri 03-May-13 21:54:35

They won't laugh, they will send someone round to have a chat with him, and remove him if necessary.

Don't be scared or embarrassed. You need to show your SBEX that you are not scared or intimidated by his pathetic immature behaviour.

marthastew Fri 03-May-13 21:57:20

They will take you seriously. They will arrive in a flash and remove him. Please call them now.

MisForMumNotMaid Fri 03-May-13 21:58:23

They wont come in all heavy handed. They will be firm but polite. They will have record of their visit.

Please don't feel silly or embarrassed. That's for him to feel. He's the fool. He has no right to act in this aggressive way in your home.

Do you have anyone else to call if not the police (but they wouldn't mind)

whatamardarse Fri 03-May-13 21:58:49

This infuriates me! My ex used to play this game, until me and dd actually had to leave the house and go to a relatives even if she was in her pj's.

It's purely a control thing. The first time I phoned police was also the last time he pulled that trick! He was out the house waaaay before they came. They were fine and drove past a couple of times incase he came back.

Phone police.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Fri 03-May-13 22:00:16

of course you must phone the police. Someone is behaving in a threatening manner and refusing to leave.

StrangeGlue Fri 03-May-13 22:00:32

Call the police. They'll come round but polite and remove him. It's not okay what he's doing and they'll take you seriously.

Dahlen Fri 03-May-13 22:02:59

I can tell you on good authority call the police and he will be made to leave. The fact that you invited him there is irrelevant. You've asked him to go and he won't. Therefore he is committing a number of crimes - trespass & behaving in a manner likely to cause harassment, alarm or distress - and that's just for starters.

If you haven't got your mobile and the phone is downstairs, open the window and shout as loudly as you can for someone else to call the police. He doesn't live there, so he has no right to be there; they will come and remove him.

deleted203 Fri 03-May-13 22:04:01

Police. Now.

You let someone into your home who is now refusing to leave, and you are upstairs with a child.

Phone the police and ask him to remove them. The fact that you invited an ex partner in for a conversation does not give him the right to be abusive, threatening and refuse to leave your home.

just call the police, explain.. they will come and remove him!

Shlurpbop Fri 03-May-13 22:07:00

Is he still there OP? You ok?

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