Ok have spotted a pattern emerging in DH behaviour and wondered if it had a name.
So if he wants a situation to happen that he knows I will not like he does this:
Kicks off at me on some random point and gets nasty (not violent) with me, we have a row because this argument has come out of nowhere.
He then attributes the row to something and gives me the worst case scenario as what will have to happen.
I then retreat and mull over this situation and come to terms with it.
Then he 'makes up with me' and says he has come up with a better solution, (albeit one that I would still hate but still better than worst case scenario) thus he has saved the day!
I accept this second scenario as better than the first one and we get on with life.
The upshot being that the second scenario was always going to be what he suggested but now he has reframed it so I see the second scenario as a good thing because it isn't as bad as the first. Albeit he gets what he wants without the resistance that would have come from me had he just suggested the second scenario in a normal setting because it has been buried in the drama of the argument.
It sounds crazy but I have noticed this behaviour emerging and it's almost like a script.
I wonder if it had a name and yes I know I need to LTB.
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What is this behaviour called?
haveaquestionplease · 28/04/2013 10:13
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