Not sure whether this is even an issue or not. There's no reason why I have to tell him. If I could guarantee a positive reaction then I would. I know for a fact that he would not be a dick about it and he would be lovely to me, but I'm worried that it would upset him to think about that having happened to me. The event wasn't traumatic to me, exactly - it was an ex who wouldn't take no for an answer while we were cuddled up in bed together. But I definitely said no and was eventually held down. It doesn't make sex difficult for me now (it was a couple of years ago) New P is totally different and very respectful. The only difference I can notice is that now I have a real phobia of the dentist (?) and I often cry throughout check-ups.
I would like to tell new P because I'd like him to know everything about me. But is there any point when there's no real need for me to and it could upset him? I'm worried it could change his perception of me and make him think of me as a victim, when I don't think of myself as a victim. I don't even know how I'd bring it up in conversation.
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Telling new partner about rape - would you/have you?
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interalia · 22/04/2013 22:37
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