Hi,
I'll try to be short. I have a friend from uni, who lives in my home country, and whom I used to keep in touch mainly my e-mail. However, it seems as if we communicate in the following way: me sending an e-mail, her not replying for months, then her sending an e-mail and me replying straight away, and never hearing again from her for months. I got really tired of this, and decided she was not a real friend.
I'm an only child and cherish friends deeply. As I don't have any brothers and sisters, they've always been very important to me. The problem is, sometimes I feel they're more important to me than I am to them, and that hurts me.
This particular friend didn't reply to an important e-mail I sent her when I moved houses last year. It was a very important event for me, as we had terrible problems selling our flat, and spent two years living in a one bedroom flat with two children! I told her how happy we were to have finally moved to a house and I received no reply for nine months, until recently, when she e-mailed me for my birthday.
The problem is it is not the first time she does that. She had not replied to many e-mails that I thought were important and was expecting a reply from her.
She was on Facebook for years and never ever wrote a single message/comment to me on it, but she would write to other people who are not as close to her as I thought I was. She then deleted her FB account, and I deleted mine a few months afterwards, and I had hundreds of people there who would not write one single line to me. I didn't see the point in exposing my life to such phonies!
She wrote me a message for my birthday telling me she's back on FB and wanting to have me as a friend there. I was thinking, why on earth does she want me there if when I was there she didn't even write once in five years!
She hasn't got children and told me in her recent e-mail she had a miscarriage last year. I do feel for her and a part of me would like to reply and show that I still care but another part of me had already made up my mind that I didn't want friends like this.
I don't know what to do. Shall I give this friend a chance and reply to her like I'd have done years ago, or shall I stop contact altogether as she had never been there for me in any way before?
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nerofiend · 21/04/2013 12:34
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