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please help me partner just attacked am in shock

(259 Posts)
yummytummy Sat 20-Apr-13 22:38:15

Unfortunately an ongoing thing had been taking steps to leave but things calmed down.

Just tried to talk about a fight we had yesterday I started v calm then he didn't like what I waz saying got agitated then pushed me onto sofa hard then pulled my legs and was dragging me around I tried to get him off and ripped his top then of course I am the crazy one and I started attacking him for no reason.

Then he said wd kill me if I phoned police kids are asleep he is refusing to leave what do I do plz help

LittleMissLucy Sat 20-Apr-13 22:39:32

Can you sleep on it tonight and call the police in the morning? Can you get him out of the house in the morning with an excuse or can you get yourself out with the kids and call them then - ?
I am so sorry this happened and that you're going thru this.

BIWI Sat 20-Apr-13 22:40:35

Call the police now. You need to get him out of the house.

Call 999 now. They will remove him.

Do not sleep on it tonight.
Phone the police NOW.
Do you have family/friends who will support you?
Can you contact Woman's Aid?

Can your call the police without him knowing? From the toilet? You aren't safe with him in the house.

JaquelineHyde Sat 20-Apr-13 22:42:21

Call the police, deal with this now.

ArtVandelay Sat 20-Apr-13 22:42:50

Take your phone into the bathroom, say you are going for a wee. Call 999 say he's beaten you and threatened to kill you. They will come quickly and take him away. Good luck, do it now and you could be rid of him for good.

Lucyellensmum95 Sat 20-Apr-13 22:43:21

Is he asleep? Can you phone the police now without him hearing? Can one of us phone them for you??

BlastAndDalmatians Sat 20-Apr-13 22:43:31

Call the police. Go to the loo, lock yourself in if needed. I've been through this myself, will hold your hand as long as you need it.

MintyyAeroEgg Sat 20-Apr-13 22:45:25

You were obviously not in the same room as him when you started this thread. You can contact the police without him knowing.

ponygirlcurtis Sat 20-Apr-13 22:45:30

Holding your hand.

If you can, call the police. He's using the fact that he doesn't think you will to intimidate you even more. This is your chance to get him removed. We're here for you.

RhondaJean Sat 20-Apr-13 22:45:35

999. You are not safe with him there.

Be brave and strong. You can do this.

changeforthebetter Sat 20-Apr-13 22:47:13

Police please.

I would barricade myself in the kids' room though. This really is 999. Do not "sleep on it" - he sounds very dangerous right now. If anyone else had done this, you would press charges for assault. Please take care and please ring 999 now.

BlastAndDalmatians Sat 20-Apr-13 22:50:05

Oh and don't worry that they won't believe you. My ex told the police I had gone for him (I pushed him away to defend myself), they basically said "bollocks did she" and ignored him.

BasilBabyEater Sat 20-Apr-13 22:50:23

It really is very dangerous now.

He may be calm atm, but if you don't get him out, he may attack you again tonight.

Please do call the police and have him removed. When the police ask you if you want him taken, be very definite and say yes - don't waver on the off-chance that things have calmed down by then, things can heat up just as quickly. If you get him out of the house and you'll have time and space to think.

BoffinMum Sat 20-Apr-13 22:52:03

Into bathroom on pretext of going to loo, ring 999, get him out the house NOW.

RhondaJean Sat 20-Apr-13 22:54:16

Are you ok op?

can you message a friend and ask them to contact the police on your behalf if you're genuinely too scared?

They need to be called, he needs to be got out so you and dcs can be safe!

Fleecyslippers Sat 20-Apr-13 23:04:09

Get out and phone the police. NOW.

yummytummy Sat 20-Apr-13 23:18:14

Cant post more now he knows am on phone has gone in bathroom has said if I dont get off phone he will remove it am going to wait till he asleep then ring but he has fucked up my head so much I truly believe he will kill me if I ring them feel safer to make excuae in am and leave with kids then once he asleep he wont wake up

Ring them. If you are on the phone in the bathroom and he thinks you have called them when you havent, what then?

Lucyellensmum95 Sat 20-Apr-13 23:20:06

text a friend, get them to call police, text your parents? get them to come and help you? Am so worried for you

Custardmiteofglut Sat 20-Apr-13 23:22:59

Call the police. As someone up thread said if a stranger did that to you in a public place and then threatened you, you'd call the police.
This man is your partner but it doesn't give him licence to assult you and drag you around your shared home.

yummytummy Sat 20-Apr-13 23:24:22

Parents are out no friends to ring so late
May have to wait and leave with kids in morning

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