I have name changed for this. Basically, I need relationship advice.
DP and I have been together for 5 and a half years. At the start, we went through the usually stage of sex being great and having lots of it. I realise that this dwindles over the years, no issue there.
The problem is that I still fancy the pants off DP and I often tell him that he's gorgeous and sexy etc. He just says "thanks", or "I am aren't I". In fact, he never compliments me at all any more. I had some nasty health problems at the the end of last year and I've gained a bit of weight, not much. It's about 7 lbs and I was quite thin before, so it's not a huge amount. Since I've been feeling better, I eat a really healthy diet and I'm really active, so it's not like I'm a slob who doesn't care.
When I get all dolled up, not so much of a squeak from him. He used to compliment me all the time before I gained this bit of weight. Our sex life is pretty dire now. I make a move and he often blows me out. We only have sex about once a week now if I'm lucky. He has stopped wanting to snuggle, and he is usually a cuddly person.
It's really getting me down to be honest. He's a nice man in every other way, but when you tell someone they look gorgeous or that they're sexy and they just say "thanks" and never say anything nice about you, it's a dent to your self esteem. I'm not fishing for compliments, but I'm seriously starting to wonder if I really am that ugly, fat and unattractive. On the odd occasion when we do have sex now, he seems to just get it over with as quickly as possible. I'm trying to make an effort by trying and suggesting new things and that hasn't worked either. This has been going on since before Xmas and I'm at the end of my tether.
I don't want to be in a relationship that is one sided like this. I want to be with someone who actually wants to have sex with me, even if I do gain a few pounds. Are men really that shallow?
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DP losing interest in sex - a little bit on the long side
bettycocker · 07/04/2013 12:59
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