I'm really confused about this so could use some advice. When I was growing up my Dad was very emotionally and physically abusive, to the extent that both myself and my sister have been deeply affected by it. I'm a people pleaser (so says my counsellor who I saw for most of last year) who married a man just like my Dad (a whole other story), but my sister appears to have turned into our Dad.
Dad and my sister have always clashed and this came to a head about 6 years ago - they had a massive row over something minor and havn't spoken since. To make this worse, sister has always been my Mum's 'favourite' so Mum took her side - which has ultimately cost them their marriage. Mum and sister are very close, after Dad moved out they lived together for a few years until sister moved in with her boyfriend.
Now that I've become more alert to signs of EA in my own relationship, I've been noticing more and more how much my sister is like our Dad. She throws a complete hissy fit if she doesn't get everything she wants, when she wants it. I spent the night at her flat with Mum a few weeks back and sister was giving her boyfriend (who is a laid-back, quiet guy) almost constant abuse over every little thing. I was really upset and quite uncomfortable about it all, it put me on edge and made me want to run away.
Although I have a good general relationship with her, this isn't something I'm comfortable about discussing with her. I can't talk to Mum as her 'golden child' can do no wrong. I'm not close enough to her boyfriend to be able to talk to him. She tries to use abuse to get what she wants from everyone, including me, and doesn't like it if she gets pushed back.
I don't really know what to do now.
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My sister is turning into our abusive Dad
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NiniLegsInTheAir · 23/03/2013 23:41
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