Have NC'd.
Before I begin, I'm pregnant and hormonal so please be gentle.
Dp and I have been together a year and a half. I have 2 dcs already and I'm now 13 weeks pregnant with our much wanted baby.
He's been perfect. The complete opposite of abusive XH. Kind and considerate and always helps out with the dcs.
We were planning on getting married soon. Just a small thing. But now I don't know if I can. And I don't know if I'm overreacting. I feel like this could be an XH hangup.
So, on Sunday I had arranged to meet with an old friend and her dcs. We hadn't seen each other in more than a year, and she'd never met dp. I really wanted them to get on. Due to busy schedules on all sides, we started planning to meet in December and this was the first opportunity for us both. We would drive a 6 hour round trip and so would they.
Then dp was invited out Saturday night. He never goes out so I encouraged him to, they were watching the rugby. But i did say a couple of times how important Sunday was to me, so could he make sure he'd be able to drive back and help out. And of course be perfect dp for meeting my friend :)
He said no problem. I offered to cancel if he wanted a big night. He said it was fine, reassured me.
Long story short (or slightly shorter) he got totally wankered. Staggered in at gone 2 (we were leaving at 7) completely hammered.
I asked if he wanted to stay at home he insisted he wanted to come.
3 times I had to stop the car for him to vomit.
He then staggered around with us for a bit before finally going back to sleep it off in the car. We left early because he was so unwell.
I am very upset that he ruined the day and feel lied to.
I wish I'd cancelled it.
He is very sorry.
I feel like he wasn't interested in my plans and pissed all over what I wanted. But I'm aware this is what XH would have done, and this is the first time he's done something like this.
I wish I wasn't pregnant, I'm frightened I'm a mug again , I don't want to get married.
I want it not to have happened.
And I look at this and it looks like no big deal. So why am I so devastated?
Please help
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I'm probably overreacting...
AmIAMug · 11/03/2013 12:42
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