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What 'signal' do you use to let your oh know you fancy getting jiggly?

(137 Posts)
janji Sat 16-Feb-13 21:53:30

Girls night in and discussing the subtle or not so subtle ways we all let our ohs know 'we're in the mood.' Must admit, after 19 yrs together mine is a simple 'you fancy a cuddle' (with raised eyebrows). Not exactly seductibpve I know!!

Yy I heard that! There was outrage at the time but actually compared to most here, that is very romantic!

MrsMushroom Wed 20-Feb-13 23:07:40

We tend to go for one another physicallly rather than discuss it! It seems that's rare though! We'll do a pressier hug than normal....and get gropey. That's a nice clear message.

It's not as clear as 'have you had a shower?' Surely?!

MrsMushroom Wed 20-Feb-13 23:14:53

grin surely you know if your partner is freshly showered? unless you're the queen or something and live in a mansion! Anyway...you can smell them!

wink it's me, the queen

SignoraStronza Wed 20-Feb-13 23:25:02

Bogeyface: DH had nicknamed it coitus interruptus infantusblush

Tortoiseonthehalfshell Thu 21-Feb-13 00:55:13

Bogeyface, this is so familiar that one of our chat-up lines is actually "DH, for the record <pointed look at pre-verbal baby DD> I definitely do NOT intend to have sex with you tonight and there would therefore be NO PROBLEM if the baby chose to sleep badly. Ahem. Cough cough". (Yes, I do say the ahem cough cough bit).

These days it's more "I might go to bed early tonight. Would you like to join me?". Genteel, us.

TDada Thu 21-Feb-13 07:22:41

So what happened to nice baths and rose petal paths leading to cushion filled bed?

Pleased to see gender balance in relation to taking the initiative.

ButternutSquish Thu 21-Feb-13 16:31:13

I usually text him the word 'voof'....which is an 'in joke' thing....Always works!

Sugarice Thu 21-Feb-13 18:20:49

I usually roll onto my side and ask him to stroke my back or I just start kissing him.

Never fails!

Me: I leave my knickers on when getting into bed

DH: he is usually breathing grin

Velve Thu 21-Feb-13 18:55:40

I just drag him with me. He doesn't seem to mind.

Kione Fri 22-Feb-13 08:25:00

Last night DP tidied up the room and left on top of the lovely made bed: my basque (tasteful and hides my tummy, I like it no probs there) and stockings and high heel shoes!! Subtle??? well it worked and he was so happy that then he brought me supper in bed grin
I am still on the stage where I am trying to enjoy those things, but how can you say no when he is so nice...

TDada Fri 22-Feb-13 08:27:34

Just tie the bastard to the bed, I say

Coconutty Fri 22-Feb-13 09:17:22

I may use some of these ideas, not all at once though. Don't want to be shouting woof while wearing a Basque and trying to grope him, he'll think I've lost my mind.

WiganKebab Fri 22-Feb-13 22:12:02

And what's the signal that you use to shoe that you, in no uncertain terms, most definitely do NOT feel like getting jiggy???

singaporefling Fri 22-Feb-13 22:25:54

Am not remotely shy/coy in any other area of life, but become rather pathetic/nervous... And we've been together YEARS.... I usually say.. "Shall we have a rest/can I put my head on your chest and smell you/can I suck your bottom lip".... Usually does the trick... Or I go into the bathroom for aaages, usually faffing for so long he's in danger of nodding off..and 'emerge' in a slinky-ish nighty, always feeling faintly ridiculous like someone from a carry-on film! Have even been known to 'loiter' in the doorway (before I 'slide' along the room as if my backside is glued to the wall!) I still find him absurdly gorgeous/hunky/intimidatingly confident and have always felt/known that he's 'out of my league' and am STILL amazed that he wants to make love/have sex (so enthusiastically) with me...

dustybum Fri 22-Feb-13 23:35:25

I never say anything, tbh - I have a v v shy libido and any kind of dirty talk sends it running for the hills, I just feel like a total wally talking about sex. So we'll have a hug and it'll turn a bit squeezy and then someone's hands are in the other one's clothes and we just sort of go from there. Or if we're in bed spooning, I'll shove my bum at him in an enticing manner. grin I'm so rarely up for it that when I finally am he spots the signs instantly, poor sod. Normally I just flop on my side of the bed like a dead fish and stay put all night.

singaporefling Sat 23-Feb-13 18:41:09

Haha dustybum - deadfish sooooo much easier..my dp cant believe his luck most of the time.. Combination of being frisky/not knackerd/no 'distractions'... Rare indeed..

BitOutOfPractice Sat 23-Feb-13 19:01:29

I'm in a new relationship so we talk about it (and do it!) a lot. So I might text him "Kids are out. Fancy a fuck?"

LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance Sat 23-Feb-13 22:34:30

Aww Dusty that's so sad. Are you ok with that?

WiganKebab Mon 25-Feb-13 20:50:33

I disagree re Dusty - not sad, just the way some of us are built?

sweetpud Tue 05-Mar-13 16:29:45

Some of these responses are sooo funny, at least it has helped cheer up my day! :-)

elly67jo Tue 05-Mar-13 16:52:14

Had to bump this as best laugh in ages. Am off work with flu and is just what I needed.

msrisotto Tue 05-Mar-13 17:12:38

Usually "fancy some" followed by suggestive eyebrow waggling, winking and comedy growling. Or it might be as simple as "Fancy having the sexuals?", or just getting progressively more touchy feely in bed!

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