April last year he told me he had been having affair for 6 months. He said he wanted to give our marriage another go, but in truth he wanted to appear to have tried going to relate etc., but never stopped seeing OW. Ultimately in June I said that if he wouldn't stop seeing her I could not continue trying to make relationship work this was is a Relate session.
He moved out 1st July. He has had good access to our DD and I have supported her relationship with him and even though she has tried to get me to admit that OW was the reason for our split I have maintained that it was because we weren't making each other happy.
Through out this time I have kept in contact with friends through meeting up, texts, phone calls and e-mails etc. It has been a big effort as there have been many days where I have felt like crawling under the duvet and never coming out. I don't feel that there are sides I think people can continue to be friends with both of us. ExH didn't answer anyones calls for three months so unsurprisingly they have stopped calling.
He is now getting huffy and sulky with everyone including me as I do go to dinner at people's houses (not often maybe once a month) and he is not.
He is really behaving like he is the wronged party, but the way I see it is that friendship has to be worked at I have worked hard to keep my friendships active throughout this time.
He is even huffy about the fact I have joined a choir on one of the nights I don't have DD to make new friends.
I know I should just ignore it all, but can't help being cross about it. Though have to admit he is the same about every aspect I have sorted out my side of finances etc. he has done nothing his post still comes to my house. I signed divorce papers in August he still hasn't sent them to the court so I am now issuing my own papers.
Thank you for listening to my rant very few other places to put it.
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Lonecatwithkitten · 11/02/2013 09:45
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