I've been involved with a man for around 8 months. I love him dearly and we've had an amazing time together in the months since we met. We spent all of Christmas together, he's excellent with my children, he took me and his mum out for a mean to introduce us and we went out for a meal last night with my parents so he could meet them. In a few weeks he is taking me to a family get together at his sister's house.
He's serious isn't he?
So why the fuck do I worry that he isn't?? why do I spend my time thinking he "MUST" have other motives for being with me? why do I find myself welling up whenever a marriage comes on TV because I just assume it will never happen to me? why do I assume we won't be together this time next year? it just seems too good to be true and I've almost convinced myself that he plans to dump he as soon as we've been on an upcoming weekend away and the only reason he hasn't so far is because he doesn't want to lose the money he's paid out?!
He reassures me time after time but it just never sinks in. I have a string of shit relationships and for the first time in my life I've met a REAL man, someone I love and respect, someone I actually want to spend time with but it all seems too good to be true.
He's currently saving up a deposit for a house and he's told me he wants me and my children to move with him when he goes. So why do I find myself thinking "what a load of bullshit!?" and why do I have to constantly stop myself from asking "do you still want us to live together??"
Why do I need that constant reassurance?
And why can't I just chill the fuck out and enjoy the present rather than worrying about it all ending constantly?
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How do I just chill the f*ck out?? I need wise-woman-advise here
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SweetieBrown · 09/02/2013 18:38
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