Welcome to The Dating Thread. Number 40.

[JulietteMontague]

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[48howdidthathappen]

Velvet Cuthbert is coming good. Very happy for you

[lulubellaboozle]

place marking

[Snapespeare]

yay Cuthbert!

stuff the housework! get yourself into your negligee & heels, missy!

yeah, I think nameless will 'come good' but it's the annoting internal monolgue, smidge of doubt & the sodding waiting!

[48howdidthathappen]

Oh lulu Nearly forgot. Wet fish coming your way

[mercury7]

I cant make up my mind..sofa or accept coffee invitations

[48howdidthathappen]

Depends who is offering Mercury Any worth the hassle

[MirandaWest]

Hello :)

[mercury7]

48There are a couple who 'look ok on paper', but it's so hard to tell until you meet, and I get so easily put off people these days, my default setting is to assume that men who use OD are looking for an easy one off quickie.

One is 15 years younger than me and I tend to think that blokes that much younger will expect me to be 'grateful for the attentions of a younger man'

I'm prob just paranoid, and february seems especially un-conducive to conviviality!

[mercury7]

I've arranged to meet him on monday, I feel a sense of dread

[48howdidthathappen]

Bloody hard at times to muster the positive thinking attitude Mercury

[48howdidthathappen]

The youngster?

[MsCellophane]

place marking

Way to go Cuthbert, have a great night Velvet

Mercury - I've found the younger ones grateful that I've gone younger - go and have fun

[lubeybooby]

Velvet oh that made me grin a lot (on last thread!) :o have an excellent night hon x

[mercury7]

it is hard to stay positive 48 because, when I look back, even when I liked the bloke and the sex was worthwhile I still ended up feeling as if I'd been 'burned' in some way or other.

I really really wish I hadnt put up with so much crap in the past

Thanks for the words of encouragement MsC :o

[lubeybooby]

Oh and snape that sounds like a definite postponement to me.. it will be fine I'm sure and so will he

Lulu [wetfish] for you

[watchoutforthatsnail]

mercury - meh, if you arent feeling it, dont go.

snape, sounds like a postponement to me, and thats a lovely conversation. My last converstation went like this:

me - you were cute when you fell asleep yesterday
him- typical bloke
me- i fell asleep too
him- typical bloke
me - yeah, did my massive balls give it away
him - no, it was your adams apple
me - i cant see yours its covered in fur. I mean hair
him - tit
me - come on, that was funny :)
him- goats have hair
me - FUR, they have fur. You have fur, ergo you are a goat.
him - ergoat i am a goat
me- dickhead
him- damn i fancy you.

:) less hearts and flowers. more funny and ridiclous :)

velv - hes not come to inspect for dust, he wont notice, have a fab time :)

[mercury7]

I always dread first meetings, even if they turn out to be nice!

agree on the dust thing...then again I find housework a very useful way to keep calm when expecting a 'gentleman caller' in fact it is often the most thorough cleaning I do

[Snapespeare]

at 'ergoat I'm a goat'. He's actually funny. I can see the appeal alongside the cute arse, general beauty and athletic shagging. :)

Oh I know. Nothing has changed there is little I can do.. He's verrrrry sweet. I couldn't actually fancy him more, which is why I think it will go spectacularly wrong in the way no-one I ever fancy fancies me. I do think he's ill. I do hope he's conserving energy and wanting to be fully recovered before I see him again.

I am cutting up things and gluing them to other things since the last time I did so. It's nice. Cathartic. :)

[Snapespeare]

Goats do have hair btw, but never let him know he's right!

[lubeybooby]

But snape I'm sure he wouldn't have snogged you so very lots if he didn't fancy you. Would like like me to approach with a wet anchovy or are you doing ok over there?

[watchoutforthatsnail]

snape, hes fucking hysterical ( and so am i) Ive wee'd myself more than once this week.
We banter very very very well. Told you after last weeks date, its verbal sparing, was like that from the very second we spoke.

Goats might have hair. but they also have fur and horns. he sometimes has a horn too.......

but yes, its fun. I am having fun. he is fun. hes clearly having fun with me since we chat most of the damn day and night ( varying between stupid shit like that, filth and general chit chat... or ramdom games one of us makes up) So, i shall continue doing it, while it is fun :)

he will rearrange, absolutley sure

[Snapespeare]

I'm fine just now, thank you. You might place the anchovy on reserve if I don't hear from him tomorrow. although I really fancy a cheese/anchovy pizza right now, so I might just eat it

Really, the world would be a much simpler and nicer place if people just did what I want folk just went 'look, i think you're great! I really like you, I think we might possibly be awesome together and I'd really like to find out if that's the case... No games or silly rules, but I'm kinda into you, are you into me?' And then people are honest and say yes or no and you proceed on the basis of that answer.

I've possibly been messed around so much and had such disappointing OD experiences that I just can't tell what is going on anymore. Nnnnn.

[Snapespeare]

[VelvetSpoon]

I sort of gave up on housework in favour of a bath. Am now dressed, just hair, make up and laying the table to go.

I feel all stupid and smiley :)

[watchoutforthatsnail]

but people dont. you have to just go with it.
if its good, keep going with it.
and if its not, then dont.

People dont say what their intentions are, or they lie ( happens a lot, as we know, esp with online dating)

Occassionally you might meet someone you like, and you just have to give it a chance. Put yourself out there and see what happens, while not having any expectations. i think, stop thinking and just see what happens :)