5 years ago i had a relationship with an emotionally abusive partner who would put me down and call me swear names infront of family as well as many other upsetting things. Even though i have moved on and have a lovely dp and a new baby, this abuse still upsets me even now. When i think, until i met my DP, i continuously made bad choices in men who were nasty toeards me. I have been googling and i saw a list of 10 things that mean your partner is abusive.
The surprise was that i realised my father, who i have a very strained relationship with, also fits this list! I find it difficult to believe my father is emotionally abussive to me as well. But the fact remains that i crave for him to say something nice to me. He cOnstantly tells me how dissapointed he is in me. I quote: " your a rubbish mother, a rubbish career woman and a rubbish wife. What are you good for?" my whole life is based around making my dad happy. I even Persuaded DH to buy a house near my parents to keep them happy! Is it possible my choice of abussive partner is bevause of my abussive father?
Can you get councilling on the nhs??? Lol
Anyone have any experience with this? I'm trying to unravel it all. I have terrible confidence issues and a need to make my father happy dominates most decisions i make if i'm honest.
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Tiggy114 · 30/01/2013 19:44
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