Sorry, this will probably be long, I don't really know where to start. Had a rocky relationship with MIL since DD1 was born 6 years ago. She's v self centered, has always favoured BIL's family, treats DH like a child
She very much favours BIL1's family, babysits a lot, talks about his children constantly. She told DM when DD2 was born that she'd always do more for them because they only have 1 set of grandparents. So she's basically ignored DD2 from the start. We only live 10 minutes away but They only come to visit if we invite them for a meal, they invited us twice last year, they don't like us to pop in so we rarely see them. Any time she babysits she changes the arrangements at the last minute eg my parents had a 60th birthday party, she was going to keep DDs over night, it was arranged months in advance but the week before she changed her mind because she'd had friends to stay and would be tired. FIL doesn't get involved. (he's pretty awful,
that's a whole other thread)
Sorry for rambling, I'll get to the point. She phoned yesterday to complain she hasnt seen DDs since new year. She said she's missing them. And then said 'well really just DD1'. I was so shocked I couldn't even reply! I'm so angry with myself for not calling her on it.
She's been mean in so many other ways, this thread could go on for ages. DH never says anything, his stick response is 'she wouldn't have meant it like that'. I think she knows exactly what she's saying. I rely don't know what to do, I'd like to have nothing more to
do with her or FIL but that puts DH in an awkward position.
What should I do??
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dontmixthecolours · 30/01/2013 09:29
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