Not sure where to post really, here or in relationships.
Any way. My DD is 17 and came out last year. She has been with her GF for about 3 months, GF is 21 and lives quite far away but near to my DD who is at college during the week.
DD has been a confident, happy and gregarious young person until recently. She was a star when her DF and me separated 2 years ago and we worked through it all together. But this relationship, her first 'serious' one really concerns me.
Her GF is extremely jealous and controlling and my DD is turning herself inside out trying to do and say things to keep her GF happy. She 'fails' constantly and is miserable for much of the time. GF constantly accuses my DD of fancying other people (even boys!), checks DD's Facebook messages and then rings her (Saturday at 3.30am in the morning to accuse DD of changing her relationship status, which DD hadn't). It goes on and on I am increasingly at a loss as to what to say.
Should I stay out of it (I find that very hard to do when DD confides in me). I know from personal experience that this isn't going to change, that it will get worse as each time my DD accepts responsibility for her GF's feelings she is giving permission for GF to demand even more of her. DD's studies are, for the first time, suffering and she has been given her first ever warning for non submission of work.
Advice, thoughts, anything would be appreciated. Thank you.
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fightingfog · 28/01/2013 19:19
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