Hi
Had a baby 6 months ago and when our kids started preschool, my friend said she'd have my son after preschool on a Mon until lunchtime. I asked her if it would be too much and she said no, she'd make it a regular arrangement and it helped her as it kept her dd busy while she was doing stuff around the house as that is the only day she is off work. When I used to pick DS up, another girl would be round there and its a girl who lives round the corner from them (I live a few miles away). However, since before Xmas, I've felt she's been making excuses not to have him eg saying she had loads of work to do. When I offered to take her dd, she said "no its ok shes going to a pool party anyway)" - fine fair enough.
Anyway, start of term - didn't ask as I knew start of term. This week, I offered to have her (because I'd been feeling she was making excuses, dh said maybe its because I wasn't taking her dd back for lunch at mine). She initially said yes - but now I've had a text saying her neighbour has to go to work so she has to take the other girl who lives round the corner back from preschool back to hers and may her dd could come roudn another Monday? - no mention of inviting ds around for lunch at all (even though they play together well etc). I think its fine that she offers to help her friend out - but don't you think its a bit odd she hasn't said "we'll see what the snow does and if its ok, your ds can come round here?" We are due to have snow tomorrow so regardless, weather may scunner that - but do you think I should ask her if I've done something to offend or if she doesn't want to take him on Mons any more? My ds keeps asking every mon (he's associated Mon to going back to his friends because he's been doing it so long) - and I don't think its fair that he keeps thinking this is going to happen if it isn't? It really pulls at my heart strings as my ds doesn't really have many play dates. Have instigated one with a boy from his nursery but us mums are finding it hard to get a date.
Its horrible to put someone on the spot - but I've been telling ds she was going to come round this Monday and now I have to say she's not - and to wait till Sun night to tell me I feel is a bit off. Am I being over sensitive - am this close to texting to ask her??
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tazmo · 20/01/2013 18:11
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