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Is this a normal way to speak for some men/ people ?

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Domesticsloven · 17/01/2013 23:27

Ds asked for a drink from dh tonight he is 10 . He does get his own drinks too. Dh said " get your own you little git " (shock) he was " joking" and meant he could get his own, apparently
WTF .

This is a professional man , why would he use a word like that to a child? It has really shocked me.

However I am quite genteel so AIBU ? (but to you nice reasonable relationships peeps)

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AnyFucker · 17/01/2013 23:30

Your ds is 10 and he has used this rather uncouth terminology for the first time ?

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tribpot · 17/01/2013 23:31

The DH referred to his child as a little git.

I don't think that is normal.

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Domesticsloven · 17/01/2013 23:32

Oh ok, in my mind its almost tantamount to child abuse but I am very as I say gentle worded

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chocoluvva · 17/01/2013 23:33

Hmmm. Well, it's not nice obviously, but I think my feelings about it would depend on his tone of voice.

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Pan · 17/01/2013 23:33

No it isn't 'normal' for civilised people. It IS probably normal though for people who were spoken to like that when they were children - just carrying on his parents shite role-modelling. Perhaps.

It isn't a joke and, for me, talking to children like that would be a real 'deal-breaker'.

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Domesticsloven · 17/01/2013 23:33

It just doesn't seem normal to me either.

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CuriousMama · 17/01/2013 23:35

Not normal I'd never say it nor would dp. And is this the first time in all these years? Or isn't he dp's child?

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CuriousMama · 17/01/2013 23:35

sorry your dh.

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Domesticsloven · 17/01/2013 23:37

Well he wouldn't say it at work to his colleagues would he ? Bizarre.
He meant it to mean he was lazy but may have meant to say lazy get But it came out wrong ?

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PacificDogwood · 17/01/2013 23:39

Hmm. I don't like it, but how much I'd make of it would entirely depend on context/tone of voice/what else is going on.
If it was ment as in 'you can get a drink yourself, you little monkey', I'd let it slide.
If it was said with malice or aggression, warning bells are going.

As to 'is it normal' - not to everybody, but sadly to some.
How is your DH with words normally?

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Domesticsloven · 17/01/2013 23:40

Is dh child
He called him a little fool a couple of months ago in an argument over passing over the tv remote.

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AnyFucker · 17/01/2013 23:41

Are you going to answer the question about whether this is the first time he has done this ?

Unless he has developed sudden vocal tic for some reason, you don't suddenly start referring to your dc's as "gits"

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AnyFucker · 17/01/2013 23:42

ah

"git" today

"fool" a couple of months ago

that's it ?

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Pan · 17/01/2013 23:42

still. Evidence of his upbringing and stuff like this being acceptable. World has moved on and all that jazz.

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Pan · 17/01/2013 23:43

What profession is he in?

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Domesticsloven · 17/01/2013 23:44

It may have been meant like that Pacific but it came out more serious than intended I don't really know.
I corrected him and he said "little get " instead (hmm)
I said it was not a nice way to speak to a child and he said " shut up " to me and " go to bed then "

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Callycat · 17/01/2013 23:44

Out of context it's impossible to tell. Git is used affectionately in my family. We're not genteel though ...

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AnyFucker · 17/01/2013 23:44

What else has he said ?

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Domesticsloven · 17/01/2013 23:45

Undertaker ...

No ( grin )
actually a Doctor

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Pan · 17/01/2013 23:45

This has signs of being a long thread, unfortunately.

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ElectricSheep · 17/01/2013 23:45

Me and DS have 'pet names'

He's little fucker and I'm mother fucker - meant affectionately tho unless he's really gettin on me tits

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Domesticsloven · 17/01/2013 23:46

A F I don't get it ?

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Pan · 17/01/2013 23:46

Doctor of..? A GP?

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AnyFucker · 17/01/2013 23:46

You and me both, Domesticsloven

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Domesticsloven · 17/01/2013 23:47

Pan , how can you tell ?

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