DH's gift to OW

[madgered]

Tell me what you think. My DH gave OW a £250 bracelet for Christmas. I saw a text he sent saying; "Hi gorgeous. Happy Christmas x". He says it was just a flirtation and nothing sexual happened. He says they met a couple of times for lunch and spoke on the phone quite a lot. What would you think if you were me?

[sarahseashell]

did he tell you about the bracelet or did you find out about it? you seem to know she's OW rather than a friend he's been for lunch with? What would I think? I'd think pack your bags tbh (him)

[LeaveTheBastid]

Full blown affair. Whether that be sexual or emotional. A £250 bracelet... Jesus. What did you get?

[AngryTrees]

I would think affair, and that the bracelet came as things were getting serious. Why else spend all that money and take the time to pick out a piece of jewellery? Certainly not for someone you met a couple of times for lunch..

[mrsL1984]

This reminds me of love actually where Alan rock mans character gave his bit on the side the necklace and his wife got a Joni Mitchell cd!! Chop off his balls!!!

[cupcake78]

Have to agree most likely an affair. Unless your dh is a bit odd, infatuated with ow and trying to get her interested.

[badinage]

That they were having a physical and emotional affair and that I was married to a cheat and a liar who thought I was stupid.

[Pancakeflipper]

I would be fuming, upset, distrustful, and have a lot of questions to ask him

[greenpostit]

Either a full blown affair.

Or he is seriously trying to butter her up so she will have an affair with him.

No other possibilities IMO.

[lemonstartree]

That's so sad :-( I would be heartbroken; and then I think very angry... what did you get ?

Oh and he is either having an affair with her, or hoping to

[lunar1]

I would think affair, spending all that family money on an ow would be as bad as sex in my books.

[hermioneweasley]

Assuming he didn't say "I have a lovely friend, x. You know - I tell you when we've met up for lunch? Anyway I've seen a bracelet she'd really like but it's £250. Is it ok to spend family money n that? Also, I wanted you to know because trust is really important in our relationship and of course it would look odd if I bought expensive jewellery for another woman without telling you!". Assuming that conversation did not take place,then he's having an affair.

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

I'd think you were married to a big, fat but remarkably generous liar....

[madgered]

I found out about the bracelet when I saw the above text he sent.I had no idea until that moment that anything was going on. He admitted buying it for her. I later found the receipt. I got a jewellery box which I handed right back.

[Numberlock]

Of course he's denying as much as he can. And know you're doubting yourself and not sure what to believe. All classic signs.

[izzyizin]

So his bit on the side mistress got a £250 bracelet and you got a jewellery box with fuck all inside it?

Methinks 'tis time you consulted a solicitor who specialises in divorce and family law before he squanders more of the potential marital assets on getting his leg over with his fancy piece.

[AnAirOfHope]

£250

I would ask him to leave because i would see it as a) taking money from out children b) paying for sex and c) totally disrepectful to me and a dealbreaker

[AbuseHamzaMousseCake]

You got an empty box and she got the bracelet, you don't need to ask. What you need to do is grow some.
Good luck.

[AnAirOfHope]

(Also by the time the devioce was thru it would be an even more expensive gift and shag as i would take everything hes got )

[something2say]

Sorry Madgered xxx

[PureQuintessence]

You are divorcing him, right? What a shit.

I bet the only way he is backtracking is because he is scared of financial repercussions from you taking a divorce lawyer.

[veryconfusedatthemoment]

Uuum, anairofhope - just what I told my solicitor when I found that my STBExH had spent £1000's on his OW. It is still going to be jolly difficult to get any of that money back tho :(

OP - sorry, affair. What you do next is of course up to you, but it was a deal breaker for me.

[TyrannosaurusBex]

Affair. So sorry.

[wewereherefirst]

Affair. I'm sorry he's such a cunt. I would be flipping livid.

Walk away from him and nail his bollocks to the wall on the way out

[AnyFucker]

You sound very calm

Are you staying with your adulterous husband ?

[MadAboutHotChoc]

I would be livid that he spent some of our hard earned cash on OW and that he has chosen to cheat as a way of resolving his issues.

They always deny and minimise everything.

My advice is to tell him to go away and give you space and time to consider whether you still want to be married to someone who thinks so little of his wife.

Get shirley Glass's Not Just Good Friends.