I want to selarate from my husband. Something inside me has just died for my DH. I care about him deeply, and objectively I see that he is a lovely man, good hearted, supportive and a terrific dad. But I don't love him. After 12 years together I Â feel absolutely awful for saying that...but I do not love him, or rather, I love him like a brother and nothing more. I have tried and tried to reignite the feeling...but its gone. Its just not there any more.
I have felt this way very strongly for about 18 months, maybe more. I am just going through the motions when we have alone time as a couple or when we have sex. I dotnt want to be with him. I am living a lie. Everyone else thinks we are so happy. DH, I think, acknowledges that things havent been amazing between us, but has a great optimism  in general in life, and faith in our relationship.
I am consumed with guilt about this, but I do not think I can continue any longer. I know the line some on MN will say is 'it is fairer if you set him free to be with someone who really loves him' and of course I want him to be happy...but this is going to crush him. He is nearly 50 and our family unit is his life :-(
I have no idea how to even broach this with him. No fuckin idea at all. I am a coward, obviousy. I feel sick.
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Sick with guilt and no idea how to proceed...
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MonoBrowser · 07/01/2013 20:33
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