Been married 7 years. I adore DH to bits - best friend, makes me laugh, rely on his judgment and advice etc. Trust him totally and absolutely believe he has same feelings for me.
We have sex about once a week. It's good but in last couple of years has got very... polite, for want of a better word. From openness and experimentation to euphemisms and fitting in a quickie between DCs' bedtimes and our dinner.
Last night we started to have NY shag and ditched it after a few mins as obvious neither really interested. Granted, we were just back from week away and totally shattered but have never done that before. Or not done it before, IYSWIM.
Part of me thinks this is about standard for thirtysomething parents of two under-6s with fulltime jobs. BUT I don't like it, I'm terrified of ending up just drifting apart.
We both have some problems with anxiety but not on medication. Do still fancy each other but seem to have lost knack of wanting to act on it.
I want the lust back. Where do we start? We talked for a long time and agree we need to make more time, touch more, go out alone more but wanted to ask if MN harpies have more to add...
NC, BTW. Promise not troll hoping for lingerie descriptions.
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I am a walking cliche - advice on getting the spark back
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needasilverlining · 01/01/2013 11:54
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