i have been with my DP for almost 3 years and we have a 11mo DD, who is the light of our lives. since i got pregnant however, i have gone right off sex.
initially it was just weird being pregnant and having sex seemed odd, then i was too damn big to have sex properly and then DD was a c-section and i could barely walk for a month, let alone have sex. now on top of that i have problems with my joints, which some days makes it painful to have sex, but this is improving recently. however even though i am feeling a bit better in myself i still feel exhausted most nights just from the demands of being a mum. it's 9.15 and all i want to do is sleep. DD works night shifts so he is not here every evening and gets up a lot later than me in the morning. when we do get a night in together he ALWAYS wants sex but i often find that it seems like a chore and i'd rather just sleep. i don't want to feel like this though. i love DP very much and i want to feel that desire again.
when we were in the first year of our relationship we were at it like rabbits for most of the time and we were really happy as a couple. now we are distinctly less happy and quite stressed. DP gets pissed off at how little sex we have, which makes me even less likely to want to have sex with him. i feel like he's trying it on all the time and it starts to annoy me. it's a vicious circle. we still love each other very much and i really want this to work again as it was so lovely before i got pregnant. DP has even suggested that he gets in shape and has said he will give up watching porn in the hope that it will help. what can i do?!
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OhWhatAPalaver · 11/12/2012 21:25
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