Advice needed please! So, I met a guy via internet dating just over 10 weeks ago, I?ve had the best time in years, he is the same age as me, 41, with two boys similar in age to mine (his are 7&9, mine are 8&3), we have had some great weekends and last weekend we met up and went mountain biking with all the boys who got on like a house on fire. I am currently going through an (amicable) divorce, he got divorced just under three years ago, his ex has a new partner who lives with her and the boys. I assumed from what he had told me that she had left him for this new guy, he was a guest at their wedding. Anyway, Sunday we?d just had lunch and he said that he had to tell me something, so I sat down and he said that the reason him and his ex split up was because HE had an affair. With someone who worked for him. And still does. He said that it went on for 18 months and finished when his wife found out 3 years ago. I got upset and said, ?Well if you can do it once, what?s saying you won?t do it again?, and he said never again, I realised what I lost, I?m serious about you that?s why I wanted to tell you etc etc?
Question is, why did he tell me? It?s now made me lose trust in him and made me think he?s actually quite weak (he said he , ?tried?, to end the affair twice), it?s his Christmas do Thursday and I did say what if she gets pi**ed and makes a play for you? What then? Before Sunday I completely trusted him, was having the time of my life and could completely imagine a future with him, now I don?t know what to do?.
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DLCC · 11/12/2012 15:17
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