Hello
I'm after a bit if advice. Exh left us after cheating when I was pregnant. I thought we had a loving marriage. affair was a complete shock to me. He walked out on me and ds when dd was 5 weeks old. He had shown himself to be a mean character that I don't recognise at all. We were together for 16 years.
Since leaving his visits with children have been erratic. Always turns up late and sometimes not at all. My little boy is hurt at his dad not turning up and I am running out f ways to manage the situation. Yest he text 15 mins after he was due to tell me he had to go into work. He works over 3 hours away so he would have known from early in that he wouldn't be visiting. My little boy had been waiting in the window all morning for his daddy. So sad. I called up ex and said it wasn't fair and ds was upset his response was that I had annoyed him and he wouldn't be coming at all.
Tbh even when he does see the children he doesn't actually do anything nice with them. Never plays with them or thinks about things they would like to do. Last visit involved him taking them to b and q, costa coffee, local town centre and then McDonald's. they are 3 and 9 months!! he is constantly on his phone and ignores the children. In spite of this my little boy loves his dad and is desperate to see him.
I am so upset that he can do this to our children. I have no support with the children and have them on my own constantly. I am mentally and physically exhausted. I had plans for yesterday and today that I was looking forward to but have now had to cancel. He dictates to me when he sees the children and then still let's them down.
Please can someone help me. How do I change this horrible cycle? I am desperate
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Please help. Need advice in ex's visits with children
Nomorepain · 09/12/2012 10:10
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