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This is the other thread. I haven't posted as I was waiting for the longer reply from her.
I've had a reply, and I'm angry. i don't know if it's my imagination or not that she's blaming me, and making it all about herself again.
This is the reply
"Hello Again,
I really don't know where to start with this...I have given what you said much thought. I never intended to cause you any upset or distress and I still feel the same way now.
I do have to say this, however...when I last saw you on your wedding day, your last words to me were that you would call me on your return from honeymoon. The call never came...given our history I took this that you didn't want to keep contact. I am never going to force myself on anyone...so I waited
You ask about my wondering about grandchildren...you have never told me of their existence. How can I be inquisitive about something that I don't know about. The same goes about my not being there when you were clearly very ill.
I cannot read minds, so please don't yell at me for ignorance. If you want to tell me then, of course I want to know, and I would have been devastated if anything had happened to you. I have lost many thing along the way in my life and can honestly say that you are the most precious.
You most assuredly were the daughter that I wanted,but you know, it was spoilt for me by your father's interfering and for the most part, spiteful family. I'm not going into that on a site like this and renew my earlier comment that we have much to discuss before we can move forward. I cannot allow for you to go on thinking that I am responsible for everything that went wrong when I certainly am not.It's so easy to blame someone in there absence.
I am happy to wait for you to decide whether we should meet, just you and I.
Just let me know, xxxxx"
I did say that about calling after honey moon. And I did call. 3 or 4 times, and left a message once. i also posted her a photgraph (of me and her). I don't believe she didn't get the message OR the photo. Plus, she has a fucking phone herself. If we have said to MIL we would ring after such and such, and we don't, she rings to ask if we're okay.
Considering our history- I was a child for the majority of that history at the time (was 21 when got married).
I've never blamed her for not being there as a child, I in fact held her in revere (for some demented fucking reason)
Please, am i reading this message wrong, am I wrong to be so pissed off?
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Shakey and tearful- Mum- I need more advice please.
HeadfirstForAMistletoeKiss · 05/12/2012 18:43
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