my sis will be there...she hasn't spoken to me in 6yrs!
My Bro doesn't bother with me much either see him 3 times a year maybe...lives 2 miles away! I saw him when I worked as he would be over pay day for a loan...never saw him much after I had to stop working.
Ds wanted as page boy only dc left in family to do this role!
With sis she went to Ds 1st school with ex and tried to stop ds therapy for ASD I had to fight hard for at court, because sis ds who she made me employ her ds (and ds GF) he hated working with kids and left....she said I sacked her ds! She said to our mum, Ds and I are both dead to her! Our other DB in cemetery around corner from both of us. If I went up her st (3rd up from mine!) she would call police, so ds hasn't been to his Nan house (granny flat on sis house) for 5 yrs...I can't visit my DM for coffee, she is getting older and when her mobility is such she is needing wheelchair I imagine ds and I won't see DM/DGM again.
Ex went to Social Services and reported me for neglect after my sis help load the gun...ex wrote in email 'I am in close contact with ex's sis'...wouldn't be surprised if it was really close yuck! Sis twisted things saying I stopped ds having contact with her DD whom he loved! Utter rubbish!
My mum fell had op pin's in wrist...DM BF phoned me to see how DM was? I was not told by sis DM was having/needed operation.
DM comes to my home to see us every weekend day...my DB visits sis every weekend and never pops in to us (we are not out of the way). He took ds to park once I had to pay baby sitting to DB for this...(40yrs old and working)
No help off DB when ex attacking home.
When I said we are not coming to wedding, DB said 'can ds come alone'..(?in other words we don't need you there just a child to hold the rings!)
3yrs ago sis had heart op I sent card as olive branch asked her to contat me and thinking of her....my mum said every card up except mine it was in bin (mum saw it). I drew a line that day and said I can't do this no more I had enough stress with ex attacking us and ds therapy/workers and going back to court to fight for a school as ds signed off school at 5yrs old as so anxious at last school etc
I don't want to be in same room as sis and family who drive past me every week and ignore me and ds....ds needed his family growing up re his Autism and sis knew that and totally deprived ds of that social family only contact ds needed and at a time 3-8 yrs old when developing so fast! Ds loses out again now being Page boy! I would have been so proud of ds
I would not enjoy the day...I can't forgive my sis for what she done over the years and my DB well where was he when DS was Diagnosed, I needed help with ds as so severely disabled and needed a break! I was their for all their dc growing up! I don't feel it is wrong not to go but disappointed for DS not just because of being a super Page Boy but all those years with no cousins, auntie and uncle and no visiting or staying with Grandma who has been the only person who has not let him down (df and his parents stopped contact as courts after maintenance, lucky really as df was physically cruel to ds again ds hurt by family another way) so very very sad DS will see this 'family' way as normal and not know a loving family....except DGM and DM.
Sorry needed to let that out...any advice, thoughts, ticking off, experience of this much appreciated!
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DB has invited us to his wedding BUT
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seaofyou · 27/11/2012 23:20
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