I am a single parent and have at times lived at my mums with my dd and my mums partner! My mum is 55 partner is 32!
My dd is 5 and I am uncomfortable with the relationship between her and my mums partner! He is generally very quiet but has always seemed close to dd, which I was fine with because she practically grew up in my mums house and still spends a lot of time there!
In the summer I became uncomfortable when dd went away with my mum and her partner! When they came back he seemed very close to dd and I just didn't like how they played together and it all seemed to close for comfort.
I had spoke to my mum about this and told her I don't want dd sleeping in my mums bed with my mum and partner as its not right for a grown man to sleep with a 5year old that he is not related to.
A couple of weeks ago dd told me that they had all slept in the same bed again! So I feel like my mum is not respecting my wishes!
Also in the summer after the holiday I noticed the partner was asking my dd for kisses and when she kissed him they kissed on the lips. I spoke to my mum and told her this is not acceptable and have since noticed that he now kisses her on the cheek!
I just feel a grown man should be making the boundeaies with a child but instead find myself telling dd, don't kiss him etc!
I think I will have another chat with my mum about it and possibly the partner too.
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Does this adult/dc relationship seem odd???
Movingforward123 · 20/11/2012 09:15
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