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dp just told a waitress she's gorgeous...

(78 Posts)
Dunkinbiscuits Sat 17-Nov-12 21:41:29

just having a nice romantic meal and dp said to waitress 'you're gorgeous you are' !!! Right in front of me ffs- i threw a wobbly and now hes sat outside as i finish the bottle of champers at the bar alone - feeling pretty shit tbh :-( am i over reacting?

AnyFuckerForAMincePie Tue 04-Dec-12 10:57:59

JudyP is getting a bit of a habit of handmaidenly posting all over the shop...

Best ignored

GoldQuintessenceAndMyhrr Tue 04-Dec-12 10:49:00

JudyPee, it is bad form to swan in on a topic in Relationship and pick fights with other posters who is supporting the OP.

Your point does not stand at all. That being said, I suggest nobody engage any further with JudyPee who is clearly just here to stir up trouble.

SomersetONeil Tue 04-Dec-12 02:16:49

confused

Why is it ridiculous to suggest the OP leave her wankstain partner...? They don't have children together. And even if they did, why is it ridiculous to suggest leaving him?

Are you that much of a sad sack, that you have to have a man, and indeed any man is better than no man at all...? <sad face>

JudyPee Tue 04-Dec-12 01:44:28

"How very rude..."

Don't be so silly.

JudyPee Tue 04-Dec-12 01:43:40

Without knowing the full story ( which came out In Subsequent posts ) onedev encourage op to leave. That's ridiculous, subsequent details notwithstanding. On the face of it OP's other half was guilty of being a mildly insensitive dick.

( In reality he has been a monstrous cock and deserves all he gets. )

But still. My point stands, sorry.

JudyPee Tue 04-Dec-12 01:32:50

Whilst I agree that this twerp got his comeuppance you're in daaanger of coming across like a bunch of Millie tants is all. I see no major issue with a bl

izzyizin Tue 04-Dec-12 01:29:46

Dismal, JudyP? This thread is cause for rejoicing that another twunt's bit the dust got his and, from the OP's account, not before time grin

Good on you, Dunkin - keep it up and you'll soon have your family and friends back on side.

cynnerthenaughtyreindeer Tue 04-Dec-12 01:24:15

I think onedev said exactly the right thing. Really, JudyPee how very rude to ask this OP to enumerate the details of her her stbxs previous relationship..

JudyPee Tue 04-Dec-12 01:08:29

(That said, the Ex does indeed sound toxic and is well suited to the knob: why did they split up again??)

JudyPee Tue 04-Dec-12 01:06:02

Jesus are you lot all this dismal all the time ? op's bloke was a bit of a knob saying this at such a time.. but really girls, get over yourselves (ESP you onedev, my word).

onedev Mon 03-Dec-12 23:20:17

Well done Dunkin - I'm sure 2013 will bring much better things for you. grin

Dunkinbiscuits Mon 03-Dec-12 23:08:23

lol xposts Doha - definitely onwards and upwards, really can't see a way past this and i don't trust him to change plans and then leave me waiting on Christmas Day and not show up. I Will NOT cry on Christmas day!!! I was already invited to my Ex's Christmas eve and Day, we are really great friends but i had thought i was spending time with P hmm

Dunkinbiscuits Mon 03-Dec-12 23:02:33

Thanks Puds, yeah I will be - more annoyed by the way he's treated me the last week really, he just buries his head in the sand when something complicated happens instead of talking things through so i've had complete coolness this week blamed on the headache - sooo frustrating.

Just need to make sure i stay away although it's difficult as i'm doing a project for him at the moment so will see him in the morning (will have to hide all sharp objects!) but if i can hang on for the next two weeks i'll be fine. New Year new life smile

Thank you everyone who posted before i didn't really have anything to report before now but did read every post x

Doha Mon 03-Dec-12 22:57:06

Thank God for the straw that broke the camels back.
I think you have saved yourself a whole load of extra stress when you believe he would sleep with his ex on Xmas day, it was bad enough that he chose to disregard your plans.
You deserve so much better than him and l think you do know that. Just get the rest of the year over with and start 2013 on a new footing.

Dunkinbiscuits Mon 03-Dec-12 22:44:10

It never really got back on track tbh, he's been acting distant the last week blaming a headache hmm But he's basically fucked Christmas up by promising his children to spend the whole day there when we'd already planned things.

Tbf his ex did say in front of the children 'would you like to come for present opening and go again if you have something more important to do, or would you like to stay the WHOLE day' so, he has decided to spend Christmas day with his toxic Ex - can just see them preparing dinner together, several drinks and probably him for desert!

I have nothing against him seeing the children and mine are at their dads this year sad so i suggested we spend Christmas Eve together and then Christmas morning both go off to see our respective children, maybe 8-2ish then spend lunch and afternoon together. We would both have our children all day boxing day too so 6 hours Xmas day + boxing day, seemed reasonable and not selfish imo - he agreed at the time but obviously it was not to be.

His ex has caused us no end of trouble since we started seeing each other so all I can think of is her smug face and I can't trust him not to get drunk and end up in bed with her - i told him i can't do it and it wasn't a case of me stopping him seeing his children but the straw that broke the camels back sad

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Mon 03-Dec-12 22:44:05

Are you ok dunken?

glastocat Mon 03-Dec-12 22:39:06

Oh well done, you won't regret it!

Doha Mon 03-Dec-12 22:36:34

Oh well done Dunkin

Please don't cave in and go back

freeandhappy Mon 03-Dec-12 22:27:55

Good on you!

GoldQuintessenceAndMyhrr Mon 03-Dec-12 22:22:18

oh GOOD!

Tell us more.

Dunkinbiscuits Mon 03-Dec-12 22:15:58

Left the bastard sad

Dozer Fri 23-Nov-12 13:24:06

Leave the bastard!

You have "stuck with him through thick and thin": he has put you through lots of shit (presumably this is just the latest). It won't stop and you will continue to be unhappy.

Life will be much, much better without him.

OneMoreChap Fri 23-Nov-12 12:25:38

Sorry to hear about him; very poor show saying that.

Why is the XW so down on you? That must be difficult if you can't see his kids together...

fromparistoberlin Fri 23-Nov-12 10:15:41

dunkin

he sounds like a waste of airspace

keep reading, keep posting and whilst I dont say this lightly. LTB!!!

good luck, you deserve better and I think you know that

Anniegetyourgun Fri 23-Nov-12 09:03:45

He missed the court hearing for whether he could have access to his own children? shock How useless IS this guy??!!

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