Only been together just under 4 months. It's happening more recently but now when I think, in hindsight it happened earlier on too. One time he was telling me about work, he said something in a funny way and I laughed - he got a bit angry and said it wasn't funny and I should be supportive, not laugh at him. We'd only been together a few weeks at the time and I remember feeling it was a bit of an over-reaction. 99% of the time he's lovely though, he's funny, generous, fun to be around, loving and affectionate but I am seeing more of this snappy/grumpy side. A couple of weeks ago something came on TV about a photo editing software and I asked him what it was - he snapped "I've told you once already"
And then last week he text me the results from his doctors appointment (I'd asked him to) and he said in the text "I'll explain it better when I see you". So when I saw him on the night I asked "so, what did the doctor have to say?" he began telling me and then snapped "I have told you this already!" and he looked quite angry!
One time he'd had a few to drink, I said something which he didn't like and he got quite intimidating, raised his voice and kept asking me to repeat what i'd said. In the end I told him he was making me uncomfortable and I wanted him to calm down. He did instantly but still -
I've also noticed he gets a bit mouthy/quick to start a fight after a few drinks. One time he started an argument in a nightclub queue because someone pushed in. Another time he kicked off in a club because he said a band that was watching the band on stage were not clapping enough (!!!) and recently in Manchester someone knocked into me during a gig and he got angry and said "I can see me getting into a fight if this carries on". He made out he was joking but he says it loud enough to instigate a fight iyswim?! and then when we left the venue he started mouthing off to people selling t-shirts and stuff, again making out that he was just playing around but went as far as to call someone a tosser.
Like I said, 99% of the time he isn't like this but I'm worried that it's only been 4 months and already he's showing snippets of an aggressive side.
Am I over-reacting? Been in a violent relationship before so on high alert as it is.
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New Boyfriend Getting Snappy Now And Again Already - Red Flags?
MassiveBum · 16/11/2012 14:25
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