competition........who has the worst relationship on mumsnet

[stitch]

i keep reading about other peoples troubles. makes me think. but want this to be reasonably lighthearted discussion.

so come on, fess up. who has it the worst?

[dejags]

mercifully not I. although there are times when I want to kill him he is faithful, loving and for the most part kind.

[paolosgirl]

Ditto, dejags. There are times when I really hate him, but mostly he's pretty fab and definitely my best mate.
Times I hate him:

1. When he's refusing to accept he's wrong about something, he will bang on and on and on about it for days if necessary.
   
2. When I ask him to do something, and he says "yes, no bother" then doesn't do it - then the next time I ask him to do something, he gets on his high horse and says "why do you go on - you know I'll do it if I say I will". Er, no you won't.
   
3. He is the most disorganised person in the world, but will not accept that he forgot to pay the bill which is why we've bank charges. Oh no, it's always everybody elses fault

[stitch]

hmphf, come on, doesnt anyone want to own up to horrible relationships?
shall i be the first? my dh wishes i was dead, then he'd get the insurance money, and have no nag in his life. but he is too honourable to do the deed . and would feel bad for his kids losing their mother.

[jampots]

wow stitch - thats pretty grim.

My dh is just horrid and arrogant, and selfish and sexist.

[Nightynight]

me! we're ex though, does that count??

[stitch]

maybe im being a bit overdramatic, in his opinion, but yes, he wishes i didnt exist.
cant blame him for being arrogant though, or sexist, except when it comes to me, so that may just be him being annoying towards me.

[stitch]

nope, as you are over him, and living in bliss now! unless he is still making your life a misery. then it does count, but we need details.

[Nightynight]

no, we are not yet financially divorced, so I still have to jump when he says jump unfortunately.

He can turn any situation into blaming me, and according to him, our divorce and all our problems are my fault.

[misdee]

i think i neglect my dh, i dont see to his every need, and i dont see him every day

nah, we get on fine, absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that shite.

[Toothache]

Mine has got to be up there with one of the worst at the moment. We have argued every day for the last few weeks. Sorry.... I know that this is supposed to be lighthearted so I won't go into the details.... if just know that I look at other people and see the bonds they have and I look at my DH and I just feel numb.

[stressedmummy]

Mine too!
I know that feeling very well toothache.

[sweetkitty]

Don't think we are too bad but like everyone else theres times I could happily strangle him.

My biggest gripe is he is a complete w*** when he's had too much to drink.

[stitch]

toothy, i know the feeling well. sad isnt it.
but i think the worst is the mumsnetter whose husband is screwing her around financially? cant remember he r name, but she might disagree.

god, why did i start this thread. life's miseries cant be dealt with in such a way.

[Toothache]

My (d)H doesn't even give me a hug unless I point out to him that I am human.... and I am female.... and I am his wife.

[compo]

my dh doesn't want a 2nd child because he is too selfish to turn his study into a bedroom

[stressedmummy]

I have even felt envious of OAP's who seem to look very together!

[Toothache]

My H calls me names...... sometimes in front of the kids.

[stressedmummy]

What kind of names?

[Toothache]

Whatever spills out of his mouth when we argue. Weirdo, Cow, Tit, Psycho.

[stressedmummy]

Nasty
I get the weirdo one a lot too.
He says I have become a weirdo since going on MN.
It is really bad to say these things in front of the kids.
You had a thread about him a while back didn't you?

[Toothache]

SM - I've had quite a few threads about him. He is so selfish. He seems to think that the excuse that he's "really stressed out with work" is an acceptable reason to treat his family like shit. He couldn't even cope with booking the car in for a service on his day off last week.... He went mental when I asked shouting about the fact he had had a busy day and was too stressed to phone. I had to book it in yesterday as I was on holiday. I don't even drive. Pig.

[expatinscotland]

Model agent Eileen Ford once gave Jerry Hall some advice the latter admitted she took on 25 years too late.

Dump bad men.

[Toothache]

Expat - Never that simple though is it? I'd have to stop work to look after the kids.... then I'd lose the house as I'm the main breadwinner and selfemployed so get no money for time off.

DH at the moment earns barely enough for himself to live on if he rented a flat.

Everything is in my name.... including all the debt....

My family wouldn't help me.


See, never that simple.

I'll just keep hoping that he'll become a normal husband at some point.

[fuzzywuzzy]

TA whilst your hoping couldn't you not slowly transfer the debt into both your names, or add dh on too. Then if things come to a head you are both liable not just you???

[Nightynight]

Toothache ... are you me???
sounds EXACTLY like my situation, except that we are actually divorced now. But the financial side is taking ages to sort out, and meanwhile, he's got everything and Im still handing over my salary each month.

sorry stitch - no way this thread can be light-hearted!