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Is your dp/dh your equal??

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crazydazy · 27/08/2005 09:32

Following on from Blueteddy's thread the question I would like to ask is - do you feel you have met your equal or soulmate?

It sounds really shallow but I have been out with people before where I think that I could "do better" than them and it was probably based purely on physical looks but then also I have been out with people who I have felt were "too good looking for me" and usually that kind of person has messed me around or hurt me.

With DP I feel like physically he is my equal. I don't think I could do better than him or the other way around.

Do you think this sounds shallow? Its just the way I analyse things as I love the whole concept of relationships!! Although I am crap at giving advice to people!!!!

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munz · 27/08/2005 09:43

yes DH is my equal, we have a pretty much balanced relationship, the only obvious unequal things are his physical strength - obviously a lot stronger than me etc.. saying thhat thou I do DYI just as much as he does cooking and cleaning so it's fairly balanced, even thou I do come on here to moan about him he's a good all roubnd cookie. Personality wise etc we're pretty equal.

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crazydazy · 27/08/2005 09:58

I think we all moan from time to time. I'm pretty much happy with my dp really. We have similar personalities too - he's quite in touch with his feminine side and loves "friends", what more could a girl want?

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blueteddy · 27/08/2005 10:02

The other thread wasn't mine, I was responding to a slip up I made when posting on it!
In answer to the question, me & my H are not very well suited AT ALL, not sure how we ended up married TBH!

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crazydazy · 27/08/2005 10:06

What do you mean Blueteddy? Do you not feel you are equal to him, do you feel like you could do better or he could?

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blueteddy · 27/08/2005 10:12

We are complete opposites, he is obssesive about the house & tidiness etc & I am not!
He has a terrible temper & I am too laid back!
We have been married for pushing 10 years, but don't feel we are soul mates!

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crazydazy · 27/08/2005 10:15

You sound like me and your dh sounds like my DP!!!

He has a bad temper too and I am quite easygoing, I'm very able to wind him up though!!!

Ten years is something to be proud of though!!! Would you say you are not happy then?

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blueteddy · 27/08/2005 10:19

I wind my H up all the time!!!
I do feel scared of his temper & feel I can never be tidy enough for him!
I think he needs a tidy woman, who doesn't spill things over his nice beige carpet & I could do with a more chilled man!!!

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Tortington · 28/08/2005 02:07

he is my mental equiv. a big brainier. very intellectually stimulating.
hes my soulmate. neither of us could get anyone else to put up with us.

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crazydazy · 28/08/2005 08:56

I agree with that Custardo.....sometimes when we've had a big row I think to myself who would put up with my snoring and PMT and who would put up with his jealousy!!!

I think we are both the same intellectually but he is quicker with words than me, he has a wit that is sometimes very amusing but other times very annoying.