DH and I have a 10 month old daughter whose birthday is on Monday 3rd Oct. We had dilemma about what to for DD?s first birthday party, we wanted to include baby friends, neighbors and both our families who live away and our house isn?t really big enough for everyone at once.
After much deliberation with DH we decided to have a big family party at our house on the day before DD birthday (Sunday 2nd Oct) and a baby party on Sat 1st Oct. The family party would have been the first event with everyone together including DH family since DD?s birth. DH and I aren?t into religion so this party would our equivalent of a Christening.
We made this decision in June and let everyone know at once to put it in their calendars. I called my younger sister in particular to make sure she knew since she had recently got engaged and I wanted to avoid a clash with her wedding.
My younger sister (DS) called me yesterday to say that she has set the date for her wedding, it?s the same weekend as the parties and it?s 150 miles away.
DS said she thought that DD?s party would be the following weekend (she had forgotten what date DD's birthday is). At that point her phone was playing up so she said she would recharge her phone and ring back in a couple of hours.
She called 9 hours later and said ?have you sorted it out what to do about the party then?? she just assumed I had moved the party. When I pointed out that it was my 30th birthday the weekend before (and we?re going away) so we couldn?t have the party then she said she had to go because she was upset. We haven?t talked since and she has a history of ignoring calls and refusing to speak to people she?s upset with.
I really don?t want to have the party the following week because that?s just before I go back to work after 1 year of maternity leave and DD starts nursery for the first time. I can?t see another option and I?m really frustrated that this has happened when I let everyone know early to avoid it. I?m also really annoyed that DD, who she?s supposedly so fond of, isn?t important enough for her to even consider a different date. I can?t change the date DD was born.
Sorry about the long post. Does anyone have any thoughts/ideas?
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flibertygibbet · 25/08/2005 16:04
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