DS is in the nursery class of our local primary school. He's 3 and a half. Every day he's gone to school for the past two weeks, the same kid has hit him - hard enough to leave a mark each time (ie a mark that is still there a few hours later). DS has started to get worried about going to school - crying in the mornings, not wanting me to go. He'd settled really well, but is very upset now, dreading going. He says that he worries that this kid will hit him all day, and then he does The teachers are well aware of it, and say that it isn't just my son, that there is 'an ongoing problem which we're well aware of' and they are taking steps - it sounds like they're doing everything they can do, but I'd be glad to hear what MNers think they should be doing or what I should be asking them/suggesting etc.
Today DS has a small purple mark above his eye. The teachers sent the boy home for that incident - another child was hurt as well - the teachers called the kid's parents to come and get him and told me that they treated it as 'a serious incident'. They broke up today for Easter, so DS isn't going back for a few weeks.
My concern is how to protect DS, make sure that he doesn't get phobic about school, how best to handle his anxiety (which seems a reasonable reaction to the situation... I'd be anxious about going to work if someone punched me every time I went there...), how best to talk to the school. I don't want to take DS out of the nursery, as he'd only be going back there for Reception in a few months, and I think that could cause more anxiety in the long run - am I right? And he's not the only one in the class getting hit by this kid, although he is the only one crying in the mornings about it. And it's making me very worried about him.
Any thoughts on how I should handle this? Best way to talk to DS? Best way to talk to the teachers? My concern is that because I was bullied at school myself, that I might project anxieties onto DS and make things worse, so I'd welcome a few thoughts from people not emotionally involved.
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becstarlitsea · 31/03/2010 18:32
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