Hi there, if you've time please tell me what you think. My year 3 child has been hurt by another child over a long period repeatedly. This has involved biting, punching in the privates, being kicked in the stomach and thrown to the ground. My child has never fought back or otherwise provoked such attacks. The same child has also bitten, scratched and kicked (in the head) at least two other children over an eight month period.
I made a stage one complaint to the Head in line with the school's policy. She told me she would exclude the child if he did anything else. He did do something else, and besides which I think excluding an 8 year old without a proper assessment is wrong. She didn't exclude him in any event. I felt offended that she has lied and I made a stage 2 complain to the chair of governors.
She made a series of recommendations. I have no idea whether the Head has got to enact those. I still felt unhappy. The aggressor is undergoing sessions with a teaching assistant who is trained in hosting "group work". I get the feeling that this isn't enough to support this child in changing his behaviour.
There was also a suggestion that my son provoked two attacks once by snatching a playground toy and once by asking the aggressive child to play tag. It was suggested that this justified my son being kicked in the stomach. Also, a supply teacher who taught Year 3 for one term was not interviewed by the Chair. That teacher had told me that she felt, as a very experienced teacher, that the aggressive child needed strong intervention to help him. So for these reasons I have escalated the matter to stage 3.
The Chair has resigned in the meantime (after many years of service). The Head has approached me on two occasions during drop off and more or less urged me to withdraw my complaint. She has said to me that stage 3 really means nothing as is just a check to make sure that the prior complaints process was done properly.
I don't understand really, it seems there is nothing I can do to influence the action the school takes to ensure a child who demonstrates impulsive aggression, frequently, against my child and others, gets properly assessed and supported.
I fear that my child will always have to worry about being attacked by this other child. I feel powerless to stop it.
Please let me know what you think and thank you very much for reading this long post and for sharing your much-valued opinion.
Ketrick.
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Head persuading me to end official complaint
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Ketrick · 08/03/2010 09:43
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