I am new to mumsnet so please be patient with me but I need some advice/help from anybody, especially those who may have been in a similar situation. A quick bit of background info: My DS had delayed sppeech and was dmitted on a ten week intensive speech therapy course at out local ICAN Nursery at the age of 3. It has been a lot of hard work for all concerned, especially my 5yr old DS, but he is now in year one, and confidently socialising and conversing with his peers, something two years ago, we thought that we'd never see. A couple of weeks ago, the week before half term infact I found an IEP in my sons book bag setting out a shool action plan for apparent Special Educational Needs. In a nutshell it states that my DS needs support in allowing his friends to play with other children, in allowing them to play games that other children have thought of - using their rules and to use a welcoming, friendly voice when children have a different idea to him when they are playing with him. I have left my number in an attempt to meet with the school SENCO but have, as yet, not had a response. My husband spoke to my DS's teacher who stated that my DS tends to 'dominate' one child in particular and two of his friends do not challenge him as they just want an 'easy life'. These children, including my son are 5 years old for heavens sake! This is all a bit of a shock to my husband and myself as, although we are aware that our DS does like to stick to his own agenda and is uncomfortable with change, and talks with a loud voice, aspects which have been mentioned during his pre-school years, we had no idea that this had now culminated in SEN! I personally feel that labels such as 'control freak' are being attached to my son and am furious at receiving this plan in the way we did and have not yet been able to discuss it with anybody (we received the letter on the Friday, my DS's teacher went on a school trip the week after, then it was half term. My husband has just managed to grab a ten minute chat with her during her linch break). When I have tried to broach this matter with my DS he has become frustrated and asked that we not discuss it at home. When I asked him why he did not like his friends playing with anybody else, he inocently answered, because if they play with someone else I will be all alone, who will play with me? I strongly object to this school intervention and believe it to be more of a political protocal that they are adhereing to. The children are 5 years old should they not be allowed to negotiate with one another and decided what their social boundaries are? I feel that my DS is being used to bump up some statistics that the school have to meet. Only in December of last year at our first parents meeting did my DS's teacher say that he was making good progress, he lacks confidence in reading and he has had to split him up at carpet time frim his friends because he doesn't concentrate but overall, she has no concerns. I am so confused now and so worried that, after the fantastic progress he has made this action plan will make him feel different, shatter any confidence he does have and create a much bigger problem, in that, he won't want to go to school. Can anybody help me? Thanks, Hairycake.
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