Am I being PFB-ish re: DD and boy at school?

[GreatBallsOfFluff]

DD started school last week, and all's been absolutely fine so far, until today when she told me that another child had hurt her. I asked her about it and she told me that a boy had pushed her head against a wooden fence. I asked if she had told anyone to which she replied "I told a lady (am guessing a dinner lady) who said it was just an accident".

The problem is I then asked her if it was an accident but she said that he did it on purpose. Now she's not very assertive and I know she wouldn't have turned around and told 'the lady' this. She's mentioned this boys name several times over the past two weeks but in a friendly way e.g. that he helped her with her coat zip, or they played together at break time, but I've also seen him at school drop offs/pick ups and he can be very [can't think of the word but stereotypically 4-year-old boyish if that makes sense ].

I've reinforced that if anything happens again then she's to tell me but I'm just worried. Will I be neurotic PFB-ish person if I mentioned it to her teacher tomorrow just to let her know so that if any other incidents were to happen she knew that other things had happened, or do I just make a note of it myself just in case?

I know I sound crazy don't I? But I know how these things can escalate.

[Hullygully]

Call the police. Now. And buy all the cotton wool you can find from every chemist in your area. Then drink wine.

[GreatBallsOfFluff]

Ok - Police coming to make a statement, with sirens and all! All sold out of cotton wool in the area so have called the army

That's that sorted, now just need the wine

[Jimmychasesducks]

can't see any harm in mentioning to the teacher that your dd and the little lad seem to be having problems, I wouldn't make to much of it though, hopefully then the techer can work on it.

[notnowbernard]

Seriously, don't worry about it

[Hullygully]

Get lots. It gets ever so much worse...

[GreatBallsOfFluff]

• it get's worse? - I better check whether Threshers I can open an account with Threshers then

[GreatBallsOfFluff]

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[notnowbernard]

Indeed, Hully

"Nobody played with me today"

"X and Y said they aren't my friends anymore"

"So and so kicked/hit/pushed me today..."

And on and on and on...

[Hullygully]

Oh god yes. Wait until she's 11.

[Washersaurus]

Am now feeling bad about not notifying police when DS1 (4yo) told me about his school friend repeatedly pushing his head down toward the table at lunchtime....and when another apparently pushed him into a puddle earlier today.

I don't think DS could tell if something was an accident or not tbh. I have obviously spoken to him about how people should behave to one another (and reiterated the school rules) so he knows that if there are continuing problems with someone he should let me or teacher know.

[Hullygully]

You are a bad mother. But don't worry, I have reported you to SS.

[claig]

agree with Jimmychasesducks, just ask the teacher to keep an eye out in case he is a bit too boisterous

[GreatBallsOfFluff]

So you should Washer - having not found said boy at home, the police are now printing 'Wanted' posters for him, and look out on the next crimewatch so you should contact the police immediately

Thanks all - I just needed a bit of perspective. I have a very severe case of PFB syndrome at the moment

[Washersaurus]

But it was a girl that pushed him, so thinking stereotypically it can't have been deliberate because little girls are sweet, loving and gentle

[GreatBallsOfFluff]

Boisterous that's the word I was trying to think of! Thanks Claig!

[claig]

reading it again, your daughter knows that it wasn't an accident, and it wasn't nothing that's why she mentioned to you and the lady that it hurt her. The boy may think it is fun and may do similar things again not realizing how much they hurt your DD, so I would definitely mention it to the teacher, so she can keep an eye out