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Strange adults near school - worrying unnecessarily?

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Amy68 · 03/11/2009 16:41

This is my first post here but I have read posts here before. I apologise for a rather unusual topic, but I thought it worth asking.

Recently my 10 year old DD has told me she has seen a man walking near her school as she and her friends have been walking home, and he has been wearing a skirt. Other parents have since confirmed similar stories from their children, and some are quite concerned at primary age children seeing this. Even more concerning, they think it is the same skirt that DD and many girls themselves wear to school, so could he be trying to mimic their uniform? DD wears the M&S box pleat school skirt, which is very distinctive if anyone is familiar with it (3 pleats front and back, straight either side).

Personally I have no problem with crossdressing men, but near a school coming out, and similar to the girls' uniforms, I understand it could cause concern. Am I worrying unnecessarily in the hype of paedophilia etc. Should I inform the school, phone the police, or just ignore it and accept it is up to him what he wears, within limits of decency of course. Is there a precedent for this?

Any ideas

Amy

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eyetunes · 03/11/2009 16:45

i am sure i read a thread about a cross dresser near a school last week? could be the same person. will try to find it.

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displayuntilbestbefore · 03/11/2009 16:47

there's a guy who wears women's clothes in our area too. Suspect you might be worrying unnecesarily as he might just happen to finish work at around the same time as school coming out...is there anything about his behaviour that leads you to be concerned he's anything more than just a guy who likes to wear women's clothing?

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QueenOfFlamingEverything · 03/11/2009 16:48

You from Female First?

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Flightattendant · 03/11/2009 16:49

That may have been my thread Eyetunes...he doesn't wear school uniform though

Amy, you could contact the police just to register your concern. They may know of him already especially if he is any sort of threat.

Try not to worry too much.

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Flightattendant · 03/11/2009 16:50

Queen it does look like same poster but - erm - does that make any difference?

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RubysReturn · 03/11/2009 16:51

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QueenOfFlamingEverything · 03/11/2009 16:53

FA, no most likely not but I have just got back to MN after a couple of weeks away and understand there's been some sort of kerfuffle over Female First?

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eyetunes · 03/11/2009 16:56

flight - yes it must hve been your thread. just re-read the OP and am at the wearing of the school uniform!

what is female first? must have missed that one.

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Flightattendant · 03/11/2009 17:01

I missed the kerfuffle too!

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postal · 03/11/2009 17:02

it was a coming of age thing when I was a kid

you konw - the local flasher to laugh at

is it transvestites too?

a transvestite wouldn't worry me

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Amy68 · 03/11/2009 17:11

Femalefirst looks a dead zone, you seem a more lively bunch, although the initial responses make me wonder about some. Only one person even answered over there.

Flight, have you a link to that thread?

Transvestites are people I kind of accept. I just wonder if this is crossing the line wearing a school skirt, if it is indeed. I don't want to get someone in trouble unnecessarily.

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SolidGhoulBrass · 03/11/2009 17:15

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QueenOfFlamingEverything · 03/11/2009 17:28

FA - kerfuffle

Anyway a school style skirt sounds like the sort of thing that could be acceptable work wear surely - ie nothing significant.

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Hassled · 03/11/2009 17:32

We have a cross dressing man with a fondness for short black skirts who hangs around our school at pick up time - but that's because he's the father of a pupil. In July he was wearing men's clothing, by September he was in a skirt and dodgy heels. None of the kids seem to have batted an eyelid.

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cornsilkwearscorsets · 03/11/2009 17:33

What solid ghoul said.

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Flightattendant · 03/11/2009 19:03

No link, sorry it's fallen off my threads...thanks QoE for other one.

No, not nuts SG. I just said hand it over to the police. They won't act unless he is a threat. Which he probably isn't but there you go.

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smee · 03/11/2009 20:11

A man wearing a skirt's okay isn't it? He's just walking. Can't see the problem OP, really I can't.

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Kitchens · 03/11/2009 21:57

Cross dressers are not paedophiles thats an awful assumption to make.

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seeker · 03/11/2009 23:03

Has this person actually done anything except being near a school? What are you going to tell the police - there is a cross dresser in your town?

Ignore Ignore Ignore.

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SolidGoldBangers · 04/11/2009 09:32

So you want to call the police because you have seen someone dressed a bit strangely - in fact, you haven;t even seen this person yourself but you still want the police to be called? What on earth would you do if you saw a Goth, call an exorcist? This kind of witless hysteria is so depressing.

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pagwatch · 04/11/2009 09:41

I honestly don't really understand the concern. There is a similar guy near me. He walks past my house several times a day and I live opposite a school but I know where he is heading and it is the place he meets his friends.

My DD is 7 . I am not concerned about her seeing a man wearing a skirt. She asked me about it and I explained that some men like to dress in womens clothes and that it is impolite to stare.

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LynetteScavo · 04/11/2009 09:45

We have a man that wears skirts in this area.

Think Ozzy Osborn in a black school skirt. He walks like a man but wears skirts and heals. He is out and about at the same time as children, which doesn't bother me in the slightest.

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Flightattendant · 04/11/2009 09:46

Look, stop flinging insults around, nobody is being witless or hytsterical, all I said was IF Op is concerned, she could call the police on their non emergency number and have a word. They will just make a note and if the person is not known to them or in any way a threat they will likely just ignore.

Nobody is suggesting the person is a threat. I'm certainly not. When a person is cross dressing AND starts harrassing the children an/or parents then I consider that a minor threat.

Can we just get this clear, I didn't say the police are necessary in this instance, I just said the best thing to do is tell them you are worried, then they can act accordingly, or just ignore if they don't see there's any need for concern. Then OP can forget about it and hopefully it'll just come to nothing.

You're overreacting to my posts a bit SG...I know there is a social prejudice against cross dressing, but I'm not imo part of it.

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cory · 04/11/2009 10:24

Is there actually any evidence of a link between paedophilia and cross-dressing? If there is no such known link, then there would be no more reason to report this than to report a man wearing a business suit round a school, or a man wearing denims. If there is such a known connection, then fair enough.

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seeker · 04/11/2009 10:35

So then the police will be aware- and if something else happens, the police will be on his doorstep in seconds. And his life will be made hell because "There's no smoke without fire". even though he is completely innocent.

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