Laying aside the fact that I don't beleive in homework at primary level and the school are well aware of my feelings.
ds has found the transition from reception to Year 1 quite hard. he is very bright, I was told last year that he is the best boy reader they have had in the school for 4 years but he is very set in his ways, everything has to be perfect and he likes to do what he wants to when he wants to.
he is coming home from school very tired, not wanting to do anything other than lie on the sofa and watch TV, he doesn't even play with his trains anymore.
He was sent home with a sheet where he had to write a sentence about himself. Dh and I work Friday evenings and Saturdays so he went to his grandparents and on Sunday we went out to a museum for the day for dd's birthday treat so Sunday night we tried to get him to do his homework and he wouldn't. As he was very tired I left it.
Monday (dd's birthday) I tried to get him to do it again and he got all tearful and said he couldn't think of 4 sentences. I said just try one and gave some suggestions "but I already did that on the computer" (I assume during an IT lesson?)
The teacher spoke to me last night about the fact he hadn't done it and had missed out on a housepoint so I tried again this morning (he gets up very early so I thought start of day instead of the end when he is tired.
Total meltdown, he was insistent he had to do 4 sentences not 1. He can't see through the process only the end result. He wouldn't write down what his favourite toy was as "everyone knows that already" and I will get into trouble for not writing 4 sentences if I only write 1.
In the end he started to write my favourite cuddly toy is my lion. Asked me how to spell favourite and got two letters mixed up. He sobbed then that it was wrong and his teacher would say it was "silly writing".
I am so tempted to say sod it, he is not doing it but I know that will only make it harder for him.
He loves reading and writing on his own terms and is perfectly capable of doing work at this level (in reception he wrote unaided a lovely little story about trains) but he can't seem to get the concept that as long as he tried it is OK. If you ask him a question about anything it is always I forgot or I don't know.
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How to help perfectionist little boy with homework
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islandofsodor · 08/10/2009 11:50
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