dicipline(again)

[Divastrop]

my ds2 is in reception and his behaviour has been an issue for a while now.mainly things like not listening,being silly,playing with toys when they are supposed to be sitting on the carpet etc.

however,in ths past couple of weeks he has pushed another boy off the climbing frame(it was described as a play-fight which went too far),kicked somebody in the back and deliberatley trodden on somebody's fingers

the school have dealt with it by making him miss playtime and go to the head's office,and by not allowing him to play with/sit near the other 2 boys who are also 'silly'.

i was talking to him the other night and asked why he is bahvaing like this,as he has also become very whiny at home and seems to be getting wound up and upset easily(whereas before he was easy-going and just silly iyswim).he said he's sad because he has nobody to play with in school.the boys he is not allowed to play with are playing with the other boys in the class and as ds isnt allowed near them he just sits on his own

also,this morning another boy started hitting ds with hie bookbag and laughing.ds said to him 'i dont want to fight'.the teacher saw it and didnt say anything,so i pointed it out to her.i am worried the other kids will start picking on ds to get him into trouble.

this all seems so harsh to me,he's not even 5 yet.everything was fine untill they got a new teacher in january.i know he should have settled down by now and needs to be punished when he misbehaves but i cant help feeling this is all a bit unfair.

[cazzybabs]

You need to go and talk to the teacher. Don't forgot you only hear one side of it and see a very little of what goes on.

Could you have a star chart to link in with bahvaiour at school? Have you told him if he hits the other children they will be scared of him and then talk to him about how to play nicely.

[Divastrop]

we have a star chart.i have spoken to him about playing nicely etc,but alot of what i say doesnt seem to go in.

[cazzybabs]

Cold you have some classmates round to play to give him a chance to make friends?

[HairyMaclary]

He's probably exhausted, it's coming to the end of his first year of school and he's probably just shattered. I have taught lots of reception classes and there are often a few children who seem to 'melt down' and this time of year. obviously the behaviour is not acceptable but I'm currently too fuzzy to think of anything to suggest that may help! Maybe some very queit weekends and gentle evenings and not turning all this recent behaviour into a big stress?

[HairyMaclary]

Sorry, must read OP properly, there may be more to it if it's been going on since January but I would still thing that tiredness may be playing a part with the more recent bahaviour.